"Appearance can be a powerful and useful tool in controlling the kind of message you send to others about who you are, your age, and you view your age. If you get the response you want, your style fits; if you do not get the response you want, consider making some changes." - Alison Vaughn
We are all blank canvases just ready to be painted by a master. That is what is so beautiful about all of us...we are different portraits...not meant to look the same. Personal style and fashion are so much fun for that very reason...it is PERSONAL...unique to each individual.
At the time of my weight loss this past spring, I did not want to replace the oversized clothes with just anything. I wanted direction, so I gave the question of
HOW DO I CREATE PAM STYLE?
much thought. I looked at magazines...considered trends...wrote down things I like and don't like...but kept coming back to this:
WHAT DO I WANT TO COMMUNICATE WITH MY STYLE?
Every time we get dressed each day, we are sending a message to ourselves as well as the outside world. If I throw on a large, over sized T-shirt and do not fix my hair or makeup, then the message to me and others is that I don't care or matter. If I go to the wacky extreme, then I am saying I want attention and do not feel confident in my skin...though it might appear to the world the exact opposite. I also communicate with my choices if I am decisive or lack direction!
WHAT DO I WANT TO COMMUNICATE WITH MY STYLE? I decided for me the best way to answer that question was with adjectives and descriptions. I narrowed it down to five...because if I focus on more than five then my style lacks direction, definition, and, well, gets a little schizophrenic again....(Yes, in the past I have been there before!)
Now, when I go into a dressing room I take with me THE OVER50FEELING40 FOUNDATIONAL FIVE...how's that for naming a plan?? When I try something on, it has to answer all five questions or I do not buy it. Since beginning to shop with this plan in June 2011, I am leaving more behind and loving more of what I bring home. I am also testing this with friends and so far the response is great...they love to have direction when they shop! I even had a college student tell me that she uses these guidelines now herself and recommends them to other college girls!
Because we are all different canvases, our foundational five will be different. But, here are mine:
1. Strong...Does the piece give me a feeling of strength...in charge...professional success?
2. Chic...Do I feel classy, chic, dignified?
3. Creative...Is there a creative touch to what I am doing that is unique to my artsy side?
4. Youthful....Do I feel "young at heart" in the look in an appropriate manner?
5. Fitted....Does it fit my body in a fabulous way...not too tight...not too big?
Your fabulous five might include words like simple, tailored, romantic, trendy, country club, preppy, bohemian, approachable...there are a plethora of words to compose the communication we are seeking with our own individual foundational five. But, I would like to submit to you that if you shop with five goals in mind, then you will begin to define your own style. You will also take less clothing to Goodwill and return less to the stores and have fewer moments before a three way mirror saying WHAT WAS I THINKING?
Since I began...I like it...it works!
Now, as the last post says.............GO SHOP!!
"There is nothing which prevents a woman from being stylish, confident, and fashionable...age does not matter; income does not matter; and body size does not matter. We build walls in our minds, but breaking down those walls can be easy and so much fun." - Pam Lutrell