over50feeling40: New Aging Message, New Outlook, New Hashtag...When I'm 64!
Fashion and Lifestyle Blog for women over 50 to help achieve strength, confidence, joy, inspiration, and, of course, head-turning personal style!

Jul 21, 2017

New Aging Message, New Outlook, New Hashtag...When I'm 64!

Yes, I am over 60 and Feeling Fantastic!  Today I am 64!  Can you hear the Beatles swimming in my head?  Which lead me to look up the lyrics to the song.  Yes, they paint a picture of an elderly couple which is not really a modern day elderly couple…(I do not think you will ever see me knitting by the fire)…but I do love to hold my grandchildren on my knee!   It is not really a song about getting older as much as a song about unconditional love, “Will You Still Love Me, When I’m 64?”


This brings me to a perfect topic for my birthday post.  Do you love yourself unconditionally at the age you currently are?  This is the crux of the matter for those of us marching into our older years.  If we accept ourselves as older women, we will discover more joy, contentment, and confidence.  But, if we are always trying to be younger and go the other direction, then there is nothing but frustration and depression on the table.  I am very concerned about the number of young women I know in their 20s and 30s who have regular Botox appointments.  What caused them at such a young age to begin this process?  I submit it is an overall society message against aging.
Let’s face it….we age.  There is no way to stop the process, but I can do everything to look and feel my best at the age I currently am.    When I see hashtags like #ageless, #agelesstyle, #anti-aging, #agedistruption, I just have to laugh….nothing true about a single one.  In fact, sucking women into philosophies which can encourage them to be twenty again is harmful.  I have accepted the fact I will not ever wear a bikini...or have an completely smooth face…or rock short shorts…or many other things from my past.
However, with my acceptance comes a freedom to be me at my best right now.  True, I do color my hair, but not to look younger, to look my best with my complexion and style messaging.   I have many friends who look fabulous with their gray, because of skin tones and most of them use a colorist to get the perfect shade of gray. It is more about what is right for me at this time....and about you doing what is right for you.   But, doing this for the purposes of looking younger would just lead to depression for me…I am not going to go backwards ever again.   This is why comparisons can be deadly to our state-of-mind.


Most of you know, I make style decisions based on the messages I send with my look from head to toe…savvy, creative, approachable, strong, current.    All of the adjectives must work together.  There are many current styles which do not say strong and intelligent to me.  I am happy at 64 to have a career and wisdom from experiences in my past.

I named this blog Over 50 Feeling 40 because I believe it made a statement of hope and encouragement.  I did not name it Over 50 Looking 40 on purpose.   Traditional fashion media often focuses more on the outside and not on the overall message of confidence, wellness, and acceptance.  I hope you will always find that here.

My new hashtag?  #ageacceptance  I do this in an effort to encourage you to love yourself today at the age you are.  Hopefully, by beginning there, you will see that age acceptance also means self- care at its best….inside and out!  It will put a smile on your face and a song in your heart!  (Rather than trying to be something we will never be again)  Life is too short to not live it to it's fullest...confident with a smile on our faces. 

64...and Smiling!
Linking with VISIBLE MONDAY 

31 comments:

  1. Happy birthday, Pam! I turn 64 later this year, so I'm right there with you. (But I do like to knit by the fire!). Have a great year!

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    1. I am jealous you have that skill, Tricia. Never picked it up but I have many friends who find it therapeutic...but while you knit by the fire...I will blog by the fire...I wasn't putting down the skill (believe me) and I so appreciate you reading and being here

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  2. Happy Birthday Pam! I love your attitude about feeling confident, relevant and strong both inside and out! (and I love your style)! You are an inspiration!

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    1. Thank you so much...the encouragement keeps me going with the blog!

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  3. Wishing you a beautiful day. Thank you for the inspiring words. Love to see women lifting women up. My daily reminder...... #ilovemyeselfthewayiam

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    1. Love this hashtag!! Thanks for being here.

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  4. Happy Birthday Pam! Cheers to Age Acceptance!!!

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    1. Cheers back....it is important we do this! Thanks so much for reading and commenting.

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  5. Happy Birthday Pam!!! I do love to knit by the fire too :) Your message is string and true. Have a fabulous day!

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    1. By the end of this day, I will probably get someone to teach me to knit! Thanks Jennifer!

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  6. Happy Birthday! I just recently turned 61, looked in the mirror and more importantly liked the heart and sincerity of the person looking back at me, which meant more to me that my aging looks. If I truly look at my face, I see sun spots, wrinkles, grey hair, etc. But I have decided that those things are just a part of life. I am going to embrace my sixties and use these years to be the best person I can be to myself and to others.

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    1. I loved this and they way you look at your heart in the mirror! Keep doing just that and smiling. I appreciate you sharing so much!

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  7. Happy birthday! Your blog is one that I check every day as it is closest to what I believe about getting older. I appreciate your honesty and like the clothes that you choose to wear. I choose to wear comfortable clothing but something that is flattering to me. I don't feel my age and I think that is a mindset that people need to adopt. Best wishes on your birthday!

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    1. Thank you Sue! I so appreciate you reading and your comment....

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  8. Happy Birthday Looks like another year stronger I FIND a lot of inspiration on your blog Enjoy your day

    linda m

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    1. Thank you Linda! So appreciate you being here!

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  9. Happy Birthday Pam. I turned 64 three days before you and when my husband wished me a happy birthday, I had to ask, but will you still need me, will you still feed me. I am enjoying life and I know age is just a number but I always loved the Beatles and had a bit of fear reaching that number. But, you know what, it is just a number and I feel good and take care of myself and I enjoy reading your blog every day. I Hope you have a lovely day.

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    1. Oh Pearlie...I wish we could link arms and sing out loud together! Thanks so much for the encouragement! I so appreciate you bring here...Here's to July Ladies!

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  10. Happy Birthday! Hope you are having a fun & fabulous time! - I recently found your blog and am really enjoying your writing!

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    1. Thank you so much Anne! I really appreciate your comment since I am more a writer than anything else. Have a great weekend.

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  11. Happy Birthday Pam. I just started following your blog recently and find it very inspiring. Truthfully, I thought you were 50 - you look great and I love your style, positive attitude and all that you share!

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    1. Thank you, Judee. I am so happy to have you here! Have a lovely weekend.

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  12. Happy birthday! Totally agree and thank you for your words! We age and we love it!

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  13. Hi, Pam!! Happy Birthday! I just love the Beatles, by the way.... :) I also love what you said in this blog! We are fed these pictures of airbrushed models in fashion magazines, compare ourselves to them and then we feel inadequate. I will be 60 in October. I have finally learned to accept myself, as I am, and where I am, and not put myself down so much. I've noticed that we women have a tendency to turn a compliment around.... say someone compliments your eyes, and rather than say thank you, we say, oh but I have such dark circles, or bags.... we point out some negative. When I find myself starting to think "I'm fat", like if I am putting on some pants I haven't worn in a while, instead, I remind myself I am walking and trying to eat healthier. It is just the little things.... the attitude, that makes that big difference. And, a smile brightens up everyone's face, no matter the age!! :) Happy Birthday!

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    1. Thank you so much and for always being here!

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  15. Happy Birthday! I have been following you for over a year and I love your style. I adore your passion. You often inspire me to create more with color, fun and whim! Have a wonderful celebration.

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    1. Thank you so much...I appreciate you reading and commenting!

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  16. Happy Birthday, Pam! I appreciate your sentiments very much. Your attitude is wonderful and I love your beautiful smile! ~ Sharon

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