over50feeling40: May 2017
Fashion and Lifestyle Blog for women over 50 to help achieve strength, confidence, joy, inspiration, and, of course, head-turning personal style!

May 27, 2017

Fashion over 50: A Discussion on Color and the Power of Neutrals

Here is another Blab talk...starring three Fashion over 50 Bloggers who love their neutrals!  Remember these are flashes from the past,  when we had a chance to take advantage of a fun medium...now gone!

Hope you enjoy this one!!  Jennifer and Susan are so much fun.

Happy Weekend!

May 26, 2017


Hi Everyone,
I rarely post more than once in a day, but I just discovered some great Eileen Fisher pieces on sale at Dillards.  I have already placed my order and I think many will go fast.  Here are some of the pieces I saw, but once you are in the site, there are more...and you will find, Misses, Plus Size and petites in the sale items....You know how much I love and highly recommend Eileen Fisher and there are some great prices here...so have fun!!

Fashion Over 50: Summer Sales Are On!

I think we all agree summer really starts with Memorial Day weekend!  So, to spice up your fashion over 50 wardrobe, pay attention to all of the great summer sales going on this weekend!  I am so excited about my sandals for the warmer weather..I have four new pair!  The Steve Madden slides I am wearing here were a Marshall's find recently.  I will model them for you soon with my new favorite outfit!

I will also be shopping these sales for some treasures:

Always fun to prepare some cool warmer weather looks.

Have a Joyous Holiday Weekend, all!

May 24, 2017

Fashion Over 50: Fit Options In Skirts

On Sunday, I discussed how much I like the JJill Pencil Skirt.  Another place where I find affordable, well fit skirts is Dress Barn. I found this knit recently on sale and love the cream, pink and black print.  It is an easy skirt to style all year long.
On this day, I wore it with an open toe, mettalic shoe which has a small wedge to it.  Another day though, I will probably wear it with ballet flats.
There was one comment the other day about our over 50 knees.  I realize mine are not the best, but so far I do not see them as a reason to not wear skirts at all.  I am sure that will not always be the case!  This skirt is a little longer than the other one I had on earlier in the week and I do prefer this length.

I selected some Dress Barn skirts for your consideration below.  They are one retailer, like JJill, which covers all body types with their options and often have sales.   There is so much versatility for a skirt like this...can be dressed professional or casual.  I am really glad I found it!

Keep Smiling, Everyone!


May 23, 2017

A Discussion: How to Dress Your Body Type over 40

Many asked to see more of the Blabs we recorded when the medium was at it's height...sad, to see it go!  I began the week with a frank admission about my body type and dresses, so I thought you might enjoy the Blab we recorded about dressing your body type over 40.  Let us know what you think!

Enjoy Your Tuesday!

May 22, 2017

4 Steps for a Successful Tea Party

I thought you might enjoy an article I wrote for one of the magazine's I oversee as editor.  It is 4 Steps for a Successful Tea Party.

I love any reason for a tea party!  Hope the article inspires you to host one.

Keep Smiling!

May 21, 2017

Fashion Over 50: My Biggest Body Shape Struggle

It is hard to admit, but for the past 20 years, I have struggled with my body shape.  I seem to be a pear….at times, an apple….and other times I feel more like an eggplant!  There are many days when dressing my body in a flattering style is a challenge for me.  However, before I go further, I want you to know, it does make a huge difference in my attitude, my confidence, and joy when I am able to hit that sweet spot, and dress in the most flattering way possible.

Dresses have been my biggest issue.  I would love to wear more of them.  However, I have spent hours in dressing rooms, trying on a multitude of shapes, sizes, and fabrics and rarely find one I like. I live in a very warm climate and to purchase dresses which only work with shapewear defeats the purpose of wearing them to begin with.  I want to wear them to be cooler…but shapewear is hot!

The best way for me has been to have a wardrobe of predominantly separates.  I mostly wear pencil skirts, because I find them perfect to flatter a curvy figure.  I recently found this blouse at Marshall’s and I really like it.  I can take this simple look (with my JJill pencil skirt) and dress it more casual with sandals like I have done here.  Or I could add my pearls and pointed toe shoes for a dressier style.

Most of us are not skinny, slim, model-type women.  I love it when a brand says they are featuring a curvy woman and it turns out she is a size 10 or 12.  I doubt in my life I will ever be a 10.  So, I will continue on my search for dresses which flatter my figure and help me to feel confident.  But, for now, it is separates which are the foundation of my personal style.  Honestly, I prefer pants!

Does anyone else struggle with finding dresses?  Please share...

I love the JJill Pencil Skirts and they are on sale right now...look 

below.  Also, my necklace is from Soft Surroundings...they have

awesome accessories...I selected some below...

Linking up with VISIBLE MONDAY

Keep Smiling!

May 19, 2017

Join In As We Discuss FRUMPY!

Blab is a medium long gone, but while it was here, we had some fun with it.  Here are three bloggers discussing a word we all try to avoid...FRUMPY!
Since this talk first aired on Blab, we have ceased to call ourselves the frump-busters as a group (though we all do it individually) and Susan has a new blog location, Susan After 60.

Happy Saturday!

May 18, 2017

Fashion Over 50: What to Wear Work Day to Casual Evening Out

Last week I faced one of those over 50 what-to-wear-dilemmas when I had to go from my professional setting to a casual evening night out.  We were honored to be asked to an intimate gathering to hear an on the rise to big fame, Nashville singer, JENNA PAULETTE. (who is super talented, by the way).

I chose to go with this Asian-inspired, peplum jacket from Chico's.  It had a style I liked which worked well for work and for evening.  I could easily wear it with denim, but for the work day wore my So Slimming Chico's pants.  
I did not wear a necklace underneath because the jacket had so much going on in the front.  So my bracelet from Soft Surroundings was my jewelry of choice.
I chose these Halogen flats I purchased a couple of years ago during the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale.  The brown in these shoes matched the color of the Chicos tank I wore underneath the jacket.  

Usually I would wear jeans or black denim to such an event, but this worked well for both.  I have the jacket, pants and similar styles below...

And Jenna is amazing...I know we will see a lot more of her in the future.

Happy Weekend!


May 17, 2017

Life Over 50: Time to Toss the Trash!

The event I told you about earlier this week was at a trendy, popular place in San Antonio called THE PARAMOUR.  When I saw this chair on their balcony, I immediately wanted a picture in it...actually, I wanted the chair for my office..queen-style at work!  It would not fit in my purse, so next best thing was to snap a picture.  You can imagine my disappointment when I put in the card and found all the pictures with a TRASH CAN proudly in the image!

I was so upset...all I could do it focus on that trash can and be sad the pictures were a bust.  But, were they?  Just as I was about to hit delete, a small voice of reason said CROP.

So, I did...and the image I wanted was there.  All I had to do was re-focus my thoughts.

Isn't this what we tend to do every day?  We look in the mirror and just see the fat, or the gray, or the wrinkles, or whatever problem we believe we have.  Sometimes, we need the voice to say STOP and CROP.  Crop out the negativity and re-focus on what makes us special.  It may be your smile, or your eyes, or your complexion, or your hair...or all of it.  But, there is something special about you!

Please join me in throwing out the trash and focus on all that makes you the queen your are!  Life is too short to do it any other way!

Does anyone else usually see the trash first or have ways you avoid it?

Keep Smiling!

May 16, 2017

Joseph Nagucci Bracelets: Get One Free Now

I just had to tell you about JOSEPH NAGUCCI bracelets...because they are beautiful and on sale and if you act now, you get one FREE! (until May 17)
I have been wearing Joseph Nogucci bracelets for about a year.  They are quality, beautiful...and inexpensive accessories!  
Also are perfect for any age of woman...in fact they just might make a good graduation gift.

Like I said, the ones I am wearing here are ON SALE.  You also might spend some time on their WEBSITE!

Keep Smiling, Everyone!

Disclaimer:  I was provided product for this post, but the words are my own.

May 15, 2017

Fashion Over 50: Make Classic Your Own

When I am speaking or ask to do a presentation, I often keep my look simple.  The reason is because I want to concentrate on the words and not worry about anything else. 

 Recently I was asked to be on this panel:

A discussion about media and fashion for our local Fashion Group International (FGI) chapter.  It was a great morning and discussion with 

Brenda Coffee of  1010 PARK PLACE
Lance Avery Morgan of SOCIETY DIARIES

Besides my blog, I am Editor of SAN ANTONIO WOMAN and 78209 Magazine

A tailored white shirt with leggings is a classic look, but I made it my own with this Black Label shirt from Chicos. The leggings are from JJill. That one simple drop of the hem on one side, really gave it a unique spin.  I accessorized with the beautiful Elaine Turner shoes and bag, which I showed to you in the last post. 

I had a great time...It was a wonderful discussion and I felt very confident!  Thanks for the invitation FGI!

Keep Smiling, everyone!


May 14, 2017

Elaine Turner: Statement Accessories for Any Age

Last week was one of those emotional rollercoaster-weeks, and I was in need of some serious retail therapy.  What better place to go than to an ELAINE TURNER Boutique, where the fashion is found in ageless, quality pieces....which make a definite statement! 
You are looking at the gorgeous sandals and purse I walked away with.  Clinton Kelly always encouraged the audience to "value yourself with your purchases."  When I get something from fellow Texan, Elaine Turner, I feel like I am valuing myself.  I have her shoes and purses...and I am happy to have added one of her new pieces from her first clothing line...I will wear it for you soon.
The cost per wear of these sandals and the handbag will be so low for me...they will be staples this summer in my overall summer style.  Down here in South Texas, we pretty much live in sandals almost up to October.  I have already had a couple of ladies stop me just to ask where I found the handbag. It is a stunning statement!
If you are not near a boutique, you can find everything online...just go HERE TO ELAINE TURNER,COM.  Soon, I will show you where I debuted these pieces last week...until then, I will be located under this hat....and I am serious about that....

Have a Relaxing Day!


Disclaimer:  I was provided compensation for this post, but the words are my own.

May 13, 2017

Happy Mother's Day

Just had to say...Have a Joyous Mother's Day!  I know I am blessed with three amazing children, and three incredible grandchildren...so every day is a blessing.

But, we all love a day to honor all of that hard work!  So enjoy each moment and join me later for some more fashion fun!

Many Blessings!

May 12, 2017

The Hottest Mother/Daughter Team in Women's Fashion

In honor of Mother’s Day this weekend, I would like to introduce you to one of my favorite Mother/Daughter teams….Marla Wynne and her daughter Sydney Baran.  I first wrote about Marla and her incredible clothing design in 2012, HERE.  She has had amazing success since then and now Sydney has joined the company.  I love her approach to wardrobe building and for those of you who are enjoying retirement and a more relaxed lifestyle, her clothes are perfect for confident dressing over 50.

This is one of my favorite looks right now…I really like the blush pink and shorter pant.  Her fabrics and design are top notch and you can see her new collection tomorrow, May 13 on HSN.  Before then, meet these fun ladies in this interview I was honored to conduct with them.

Pam:  Marla, I last spoke with you in 2012.  What has happened with your brand since then? 
Marla:  Our business has grown considerably since 2012.  At that time, our sales were around $2 million and we are currently on track to do in excess of $27 million this year.  We have opened The Shopping Channel in Canada, and QVC UK, as well as, TVSN in Australia.  We are one of the fastest growing brands in those markets. We have greatly expanded our line to include jewelry, totes, jackets, and coats.  Our FLATTERFIT pants and stretch denim have become international hits for us.  This month we launched WynneLayers, a “layering concept” that I developed with my daughter.  It was an exciting launch with almost 20% of our total inventory sold before we went on the air!

Pam:  What lessons have yielded the greatest value in building a fashion brand? 
Marla:  I have learned that every single customer counts.  We earn our business “one back at a time” and care deeply about what our customers need and want. That’s why we spend so much time on communicating with our customers on our social media platforms.  This month we also launched a survey that we hope your readers might be interested in.  It allows us to know what they like, need, and want….and their opinions matter.  To fill out the survey go to http://marlawynne.com/survey/. It is a great way for us to get to know each other.

Pam:  When did Sydney join your company and what are her primary roles?
Marla:  Syd joined the company last May.  While currently wearing the hat of a “girl Friday” her primary role is to learn the business from the bottom up. As my Executive Assistant, she is getting an overview of the business from every level. She is also appearing with me on-air globally and rapidly developing her own following.
Pam:  Tell us the vision for your Layers line and how you developed the mission for the line?
Marla:  Syd and I wanted to create a line that we felt was for women of all ages. While she loves many of the pieces we do in MarlaWynne Collection, some are a bit too mature.  I don’t think there’s a piece in WYNNELAYERS she wouldn’t (and does) wear!
Pam:  How different is it to dress your daughter’s age group as well as your own? 
Marla:  It’s more about how we style things.  Her age group mixes it up a bit more than I do.  They are comfortable with sleeveless pieces, belts and ripped jeans.  Their emphasis I on fashion and style and think ours is on fit and quality.  At our age, we know our style and tend to purchase pieces that reflect our personal style versus what’s in and trending. We want to be fashionable but I do not think we chase trends.
Pam:  In 2012, you advised us to buy what fits our personal style.  Many women ask me, how do you discover your personal style?  I have a system, but what do you say.
Marla:  Personal style has to do with knowing who you are and the willingness to express it.  There is an authenticity to personal style that is fearless.  Personal style is not about what’s hot and happening.  It’s about fully embracing your own taste with confidence and being comfortable in your own skin. It doesn’t come easily to everyone, but everyone can discover their personal style once they are willing to embrace their unique selves.  Listen to yourself.  Ignore trends.  Create a wardrobe that fits the life your lead.

Pam:  Sydney, what is your advice for women in their 30's on how to develop personal style?
Sydney:  I think the best place to start is with some core basics and then you build on top of that with a fantastic scarf or a great pair of shoes.  To me, personal style is what happens when you take the colors, patterns and fabrics that inspire you and put them together in your own unique way! Trends are trends; but I think the best personal style one can develop is one built on confidence and being comfortable.  If you aren’t comfortable it shows and people notice. A woman with personal style is one who exudes confidence without being over the top.  Sometimes, I find that the women with the best sense of style are those who aren’t necessarily wearing the brightest colors; sometimes a black and white outfit with a pair of gold or silver flats make all the difference.  The key is simplicity in my opinion and, of course, you always want to stay classy and elegant.  My mother always told me less is more and that is what I try to convey when I get dressed every morning.

I have enjoyed getting to know both of these inspiring women.  They remind us how special mother/daughter teams can be.  If you have some time tomorrow, watch them introduce a new collection on HSN. Excellent clothing and a fun presentation.


Linking with FUN FRIDAY LINK UP...

Happy Weekend!

Disclaimer:  I was compensated for this post, but the words are my own. 

May 10, 2017

Is Casual Friday Still Relevant?

I really try to take it seriously...casual Friday that is.  I try to save my denim and more casual looks for Fridays.  The rest of the week has always been for the best of my professional wear. But, I have to wonder if it is still relevant?  Throughout America, we seem to be dressing more and more casual all of the time.

These are both outfits I wore recently for Friday.

I would not look like this for professional lunches, meetings, or seminars.

Though I do not know why those things could not happen on a Friday.  I have a couple of Fridays I regretted dressing casual.

I work with a young lady who also ia a wedding planner on the weekends.  She is from Alabama, and she commented on how the Texas weddings where men come in starched jeans and girls wear dresses with cowboy boots are so rare any where else.  Maybe the tendency to "dress down" is more local...but casual work wear has definitely grown past Friday in Texas.  

I like to see people still dressing for work and even for church and for weddings.  But, casual is all the rage for all three.

What about you...are you happy to see more casual style accepted now or do you like to see people dress for these occasions?  Please share...would love to hear what you think!

Keep Smiling Everyone!

My denim is a pair of Metro Leggings from Soft Surroundings...find them by clicking on ad below!

May 9, 2017

Navigating the Circle of Confidence Over 50

I am asked often how I stay confident and optimistic most of the time.  The truth is that in my over 50 life, I have many ups and downs.  I often feel as though negativity is chasing my confidence around a vicious circle hoping to overcome it.
I get rattled by things like...negative comments on social media; harsh criticisms by people I love; a walk by a mirror which reveals an unflattering choice; reliving regrets of the past; comparing myself to other women;  feeling small in my professions; or fears of the future.  Mind games...I know.  

My faith plays a huge role in the ability to pick back up and begin again.  Also, my faith has taught me to live life one day at a time; understand life is short; dress with a hopeful spirit; and to not allow anyone or anything to rob my joy.
Sometimes, I have to disconnect from life and plug back in again after a healing time.

But, so far, thank goodness,  I am eventually able to out run the negativity.

Then the circle of confidence goes on! 

(I found this funky necklace in my favorite local re-sale shop, THE GARMENT EXCHANGE.  I always find something fun there!)

So, how to do you react when something or someone takes a shot at your confidence?  How quickly are you able to keep on keeping on?

Keep Smiling!