We have been reminiscing about What Not to Wear all week, and I promised to go back to some of the basics from the show which really helped me. After I began to watch, I also began to read...books about style, fashion, and confidence. A few books said...be the best YOU you can be. However, at that time of my life, I did not understand who I was...I had lost me in my 40s. The stylish, young, flamboyant marketing professional had disappeared.
Statements like the one above hit me cold. I needed to figure out who I was at age 50 right then.
Stacy London and a few others kept asking what do you want your clothing to say about you. This is when I began to understand my outfits every day sent a message about me...and I could control the messages.
This journey to change my look, became a journey to transform my attitude about me and about life. I wrote in journals positive lists about myself and lists to fine tune the messages I wanted my clothing to say about me. I listened intently to advice of how to dress my body for the way it looks today, and to stop saying, "I will dress nice when......"
I knew these things: I am intelligent; I am strong: I am creative; I am friendly and approachable; I am passionate about the work I love and I am youthful...these became the messages I desired to capture in my style. I learned to look closely at colors which made me smile and enhanced my own coloring when I wore them. I looked at clothing designs which were slimming and learned techniques for body confidence. I also moved ME to the top of the priority list and represented the phrase I MATTER with my decisions. As all this happened, confidence and joy grew.
Now, that I am laughing and smiling on my insides, my closet is in sync with how I feel. When you learn these lessons, it takes more time in a dressing room to ask critical questions. However, it is worth it to wonder WHAT DOES THIS SAY ABOUT ME?
Do you know how to dress when a book or stylist says, JUST BE YOU, or does it leave you cold as it did me in the beginning? Please share your thoughts....
Have a wonderful Saturday!