over50feeling40: One I MATTER Problem....plus The Thursday Blog Hop!
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Nov 12, 2014

One I MATTER Problem....plus The Thursday Blog Hop!

Today, I have a different take on I MATTER.  Because I want to be healthy mentally and physically, I have a flaw I am trying to work on….I AM NOT VERY FLEXIBLE…SPONTANEOUS…I don’t go with the flow!  Since passing that mark into midlife and beyond, I have become more set in my ways.  I am busy and do not like changes to my schedule.  When those inevitable changes come along, I tend to stress out….and we all know that stress is not good for one’s health.
I have been trying very hard to be more flexible in the last year; however, there have also been several challenges to my attempts.  Enter my children.  I will not go through the entire story, but my very pregnant daughter and 21 month old grandson are going to live with us for a couple of months.  This will require great patience for all of us.  Once again, our house will be full.  On one hand, I know she is about to leave and move to the other side of the world and I might not see them for a very long time.  (Really sad!)  On the other hand, there will be daily challenges to my lack of flexibility.
So, for I MATTER…I am pledging to everyone to give it my best and not allow these new developments to rob me of my joy or anyone else’s joy.  I will make sure to place at the top of my priorities:
1.       Sleep
2.       Exercise
3.       Healthy Eating
4.       Quite time…even if I have to leave the house to have it!
5.       To set aside expectations – if the house isn’t perfect, or the holidays quite right…that is going to be okay!
6.       Take time each and every day to be thankful they are with me for a little longer.   Literally, she will deliver our second grandchild and take him far,far away. I will get to hold him for literally a moment. 
Sometimes, I MATTER means recognizing the areas where we need significant improvement.  Allowing stress to have control can lead to bad health and depression.  I will not give in to it...but, I do know it will not be easy.  Feel free to hold me accountable and occasionally ask how things are going!

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Now visit the wonderful bloggers of Katie’s Favorite Things Blog Hop!

It’s time to hop! Party and link up! The Thursday Favorite Things Blog hop is where you can link your favorite post of the week or write a post about your favorite things and share it with old and new followers. The hop is hosted and posted on 3 different blogs! Your link will appear on the blogs of Katherine's Corner,  Over 50 Feeling 40, and Vintage Mama.  Three times the opportunity to make new bloggy friends and to share your wonderful blog and discover others to


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  1. Relish the time you have with them and sneak in your quiet time when you can my sweet friend. xoxo

  2. Thanks for hosting! I've been away a long time & just posted yesterday. Enjoy the time with your daughter & grandchild. I am about to be a grandmother to a little boy next month, however we lost our 1st grand~daughters 2 1/2 yrs ago at 28 weeks along. What I would do to hold them; which I will when I get to heaven.... anyway, I have had to learn to go with the flow so much & live with what comes. Your priority list sounds great!! Take the quiet times when you can & cherish the moments that you get to talk with your daughter one on one... dreams & things you may not have shared. Take lots of pictures & scrapbook them together for both of you to have... it doesn't have to be fancy if you aren't into that. I feel for you that it will be such a quick time with your 2nd grandchild. That will be so hard! Bless you & your family!

  3. Hello beautiful! It is always a pleasure to be a part of your party each week. Thank you for hosting. Please stop by our party. We would really appreciate it.

    Happy Wednesday! Lou Lou Girls

  4. Before my daughter came home for the summer … we talked about how it would be hard on us both. Doing so made expectations of the time … so much more manageable. So much we actually really enjoyed our time together … but alas … that made her departure all the harder on me in the end.

    I never imagined the roller coaster ride of adult children! I know you will savor and enjoy your journey my dear! Your dear comments and sage advice always give me hope and inspiration!


  5. I get what you are saying completely. Your list is perfect Pam, Just hang on to it and read it daily if you have to. This is a gift to have this time before they make a major move. A challenge to be sure, but a time to take lots of pictures and make some lasting memories. You've come so far on your journey, you will handle this one too!

  6. Good for you, Pam! Flexibility is a skill--sometimes hard to learn, but always a good one to have. My best advice: enjoy all the moments! :)

  7. Great post!! And thanks for the linky too!

  8. Difficult times!! Wishing you strength and wisdom.

  9. Revel it this time and hang the schedule. This is what magical days are made of. Keep joy in your heart and split the tasks. In the scheme of life you won't remember the organization or cleaning or chaos but the love.

  10. It sounds like a lot of big changes! But it also sounds like you have exactly the right attitude to make it work for you.

  11. I hope you will be able to face all these challenges with grace and not too much stress. I truly believe that as we get older we HAVE to take care of ourselves first, eating healthy and exercising. I have had similiar challenges; my Mother lived with us for the last 5 years of her life, I was her primary care giver and worked part time and had a son in college and a daughter in HS. It was VERY challenging as she was very ill. Remember to BREATHE!!!:):):)

  12. Dear Pamela,
    Thank you so much for taking the time to come by and leave a comment. I appreciate every one of them! I LOVE your introduction this week . . . "I matter." I need to make a few signs and post them here and there around my house. I have a feeling it might help me remember to 'take care of me.' Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom!
    Have a wonderful week sweet Lady,

  13. Your daughter and her kids are so lucky to have your support. Your toddler grandson will take wonderful memories of you around the world - and you will have precious ones of him and his new sibling to hold onto until you see them all again.

  14. This is a difficult challenge, I know! During this time it is important to take time for you! Even if you do need to leave the house and go for a walk, to the store,etc. The time you have together is precious!
    The Arts by Karena

  15. Thanks for being so honest. I feel the same way at times. I'm sure that just being aware and taking care of yourself will help tremendously. Enjoy your time with your family. Kristi (BTW thank you for hosting)

  16. A few years ago, I began eating more whole foods and pretty much cut out sugars and salt in an effort to lower my blood pressure. It's been effective and it is a way to say, "I matter!" :) Thanks for hosting this lovely link up, Pam! T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com


Thanks so much for joining in our conversation today! I appreciate your time and love hearing from you!