over50feeling40: Renee Zellweger says I MATTER....and Katie's Thursday Blog Hop!
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Oct 29, 2014

Renee Zellweger says I MATTER....and Katie's Thursday Blog Hop!

Wow, did you see the claws come out last week?? I do love working with and writing for women, but, let's face it, there are mean girls all around...not just in high school hallways. When actress Renee Zellweger appeared at the Elle Women in Hollywood Awards with a perceived "new facial look," social and entertainment media went wild.

Suddenly, critics portrayed her as a washed up actress bowing to the pressure of Hollywood competition.  I am certain there were some (perhaps, fresh out of cosmetic surgery themselves) who were letting Renee have it for nipping and tucking. And actually we do not know for sure exactly what she did...if anything.  She was raked over the digital media coals.
But, later, Renee would tell reporters,this amazing phrase...”I’m glad.”  Glad people had noticed there was something different??
"I'm living a different, happy, more fulfilling life, and I'm thrilled that perhaps it shows," the actress told PEOPLE.  "My friends say I look peaceful."

Though the actress, 45, thinks the chatter around her looks "silly," she added that for the first time in a long time, she's learned to slow down and focus on herself. In her 30s, she explained, she "took on a schedule that is not realistically sustainable and didn't allow for taking care of myself. “Rather than stopping to recalibrate, I kept running until I was depleted and made bad choices about how to conceal the exhaustion," she said. "I was aware of the chaos and finally chose different things. “Now happily dating musician Doyle Bramhall and focusing on causes that matter to her, Zellweger, who recently participated in the Walk to Defeat ALS in L.A. in support of her friend, said she's in a new place in her life -- and it shows.” I did work that allows for being still, making a home, loving someone, learning new things, growing as a creative person and finally growing into myself," she said. "People don't know me [as] healthy for a while. ... Perhaps I look different. Who doesn't as they get older?! Ha. But I am different. I'm happy."
In other words, she picked up the I MATTER sign! And I applaud her.  I am here to encourage women to realize they matter…how they interpret that, and what they decide to do in response is their choice.  As it was Renee’s.
We should not sit here as judge and jury over what any woman does to make herself feel more confident, strong, healthy, and joyful. She obviously is feeling great about the direction she has taken.  Shame on the ones who called her names and judged her decisions....without even understanding specifically what those decisions were.

I choose to color my hair…but I respect and applaud those women my age who do not.  We each need to decide what helps us feel and look our best where we are right now.  You go Renee!  I support your decisions to say... 


What do you think?
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  1. Aww, always a great message and love how you weaved these two together. Absolutely perfect ;)

  2. I love your I Matter posts. They invite contemplation and change. Thank you for hosting today, a pleasure to join in. And, Yay Renee!

  3. Thank you for your refreshing (and not condemning) comments on Renee and her appearance!

  4. Great post Pam. I have been surprised, as well, at the ground swell of chatter, opinions, etc etc about Renee Zellweger. It's ironic that the post I'm sharing here is also about battling that aging thing, post retirement.

  5. I completely agree Pam, we should all be free to decide and act on what makes us feel good about ourselves. I admire women who take risks and do things in a completely different way in order to improve their lives. If that is cosmetic surgery or whatever, doesn't matter. If I had the means to do it, I think that down the road I certainly would and would not want to be criticized for it. It's not all about vanity, it's about confidence and knowing that you look your best. I color my hair too. Recently, someone (a man, you might know) said, "Why don't you let your hair go natural, maybe there aren't as many 'grays' as you think." Really? Like I wouldn't know? I also wear my hair a little longer (slightly below shoulder length) and have been criticized for not 'looking my age'. The lady who cuts my hair does a great job, adds layers for lift and body, and says she will let me know if it is ever aging me. So far, so good. I think we live in a time where we are more free to make choices about how we look and how we feel. And I for one am on board with that! Karen

  6. And it's a big here, here from Australia - what is looking your age anyway these days? I look around at my friends there is a huge difference amongst us all!
    Have a great week Renee and Pam!
    Wren x

  7. Pam thanks for hosting and am happy to join the link up. Btw I just met Patti of NotdeadyetStyle in NYC 2 days ago and we agreed on how much we love your posts!!! I gotta say though whatever Renee Zellweger thinks necessary to do or not is not really my concern. In general I believe, its so much more difficult for an actress/woman to admit she has had surgery, you know. Have a lovely day! xo Sabina OceanblueStyle

  8. Pam I am so proud of Renee and how she expressed her decisions. As women I feel we should do what helps us feel more confident and good about ourselves...how we do that is a very personal decision!
    The Arts by Karena

  9. Pam, I have a slightly different take on the whole controversy around Renee. I've always enjoyed her work as an actress but I also know how crazy that world is from personal experience. I've worked in the industry, as has my daughter. As a woman, once you reach an age where the wrinkles start to appear, there is less and less work in American films. There are more roles for children than there are for women of a certain age. In European films, character is more important than what you look like. My daughter, who ended up in L.A. in her twenties, found it shocking that women under 30 were already thinking of plastic surgery in order to compete. To have that look that Hollywood wanted.

    I do agree however that we women have the right to do what we please in order to look good, but I still wonder to what lengths some women will go in order to do that. I guess what Renee has done is changed her look to the point where I wouldn't have recognized her if I saw her in another film or on the street. Was it vanity that drove her to change her face, or was she just trying to keep marketable in a difficult business?

    Society today is too dismissive of aging people, in particular women. A few years back, my teenage grandson remarked that it seemed that aging was a disease, rather than the natural order of life. I see aging as a privilege and I wish society in general would regard it as such. I wish more would recognize that whatever wrinkles and grey hair there are, they've been well earned and tell a story that could be admired if we started looking at life in a different way.

  10. I see it a little differently. She makes her living off her looks and she made a significant change in that. It's only natural that there would be commentary.

  11. So very true... Sad women don't always support each others' decisions to do what makes them feel good about themselves; the claws indeed come out... Renee picked up the "I matter" sign. The right choice! Thanks for hosting this link up, Pam. T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

  12. Hi Pam! Thanks so much for dropping by my blog. I'm glad I visited yours... just love it! And with regard to Renee... I just shake my head and think.. who cares! Perhaps I'm a bit jaded living in Hollywood. I just don't judge. Yes, she looks different. I'm just not all that concerned about it. Loved your post!! Hope you're having a marvelous week and I will be back. Cheers!

  13. AS always, I am sitting here clapping my hands, nodding my head AND SO AGREEING WITH YOU on Renee. God bless you for saying that. WOMEN need to support each other.

  14. I fully agree: live and let live. Who are we to judge? If I had been Renee I would have also admitted I had "some work done" but that is me. I am very open. She might think "none of your business". Which is her right.
    I have had some things "done" too as my appearance became droopy and sad. People thought I was tired all the time: eyes and skin on the lower part of my face. I couldn't care less who knew, I have always been very open about it. And if somebody disapproved (which they never said to my face haha), well... tough. Fortunately for me, it did not really change the way I looked, just more rested.

  15. I think Renee Zellwegger is right about being happy with herself. But this statement does seem a bit at odds with the way she now looks. Because shouldn't you embrace your natural looks? She does look like she's had a lot of work done...



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