over50feeling40: Low Self Esteem: A Problem or Not? Plus Thursday's Blog Hop!!
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Jul 30, 2014

Low Self Esteem: A Problem or Not? Plus Thursday's Blog Hop!!

Vacation time is often a time of reflection and inspiration for me.  I am not moving quite as fast to fulfill all of my responsibilities… so, when questions are posed online, I have time to ponder.   This week in one thread (CAROL CASSARA), the question was discussed as to why women still struggle with low self-esteem; especially, in an age where more opportunities are available to women than ever before.
As a high school teacher, I still watch young girls struggle with it…they continue to look for validation from boys…many continue to refuse to look forward toward a career…and more than ever before, they struggle with comparisons especially watching other girls on social media who often, they believe, have better lives.  Though I believe there is improvement, the problems still exist.   So I am more passionate than ever to be a spokesperson for I MATTER.  While I am glad I finally got my act together, I also do not want others to wait as long as I did to wake up!  Life is short…don’t waste a minute of it.
It takes strength and courage to get out of a funk and go forward.  But, we all have that strength inside…though some of us may have to dig deeper.   I see many women who remind me of myself in my 40s.   I stopped caring.  Voices around me (mostly family) were not encouraging and caused me to shut down.   Stresses of life at that time seemed overwhelming.  Let’s face it…when you have to live with both your own mother and mother-in-law for a time, it’s grueling.   I worked hard to care for everyone else, but me.

The little I MATTER sign is sitting in a box today on the way to a resale shop!  Every day, it seems, I am clearing out the junk of the past…refining and designing who I am today…a strong, confident, joyful woman.  I am not defined by other’s opinions or comparisons to other lives (yes, adults do that too)…or media messages… or what I see in the mirror.  More than ever before, I am confident of my abilities and the value I bring to the marketplace and my community.  Yes, it takes work to feel good inside and outside.  It also takes quite meditation and prayer.  But, it is still important to help other women from high school upwards to see that they have value, worth…and that THEY MATTER.

What do you think…do women struggle just as much with low self-esteem as in the past…or do you believe low self-esteem is no longer an issue?
Please let us know what you think…then make sure you are registered to win the J Jill Scarf at the top of the sidebar…then visit the other talented bloggers of Katie’s Favorite Things Blog Hop!  And if you want to read other I MATTER posts, there is a link in the sidebar for that as well.

Have a Joyful Thursday ALL!


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  1. I just retired from teaching high school last year...and I would agree that girls these days don't seem to have it any easier than we did in the 70's. Despite all the "progress" since we were in high school, some days I think that maybe we even had it better/easier than girls today. After all we were teenagers when it was okay for women to think about careers before (and maybe instead of) marriage and before the explosion of media images that girls are exposed to and influenced by today. Wouldn't it be interesting to have a discussion group of high school girls and women of every other decade after high school to talk about just that topic. Hmmmm now there's an idea!

  2. I do think it is still a problem Pam. I think your comment about high school girls and social media points out a current and future problem. Social media can be very narcissistic and almost like the old Christmas news letter. For some reason, many women seem hard-wired to compare themselves with others. It takes a great deal of personal strength and a strong desire to overcome this and be happy with who we are. Much easier said than done. A lot seems to depend on upbringing and if we were encouraged as young girls. I know I was not and have always struggled with self-esteem and self-worth issues. People generally don't realize this about me, but it is deep inside and difficult to overcome. I wish it was possible to put a cute hairstyle or a pretty dress on low self-worth and have it all be better, but it takes a lot more work than that! I'm still a work in progress! Karen

  3. I think women of all ages still struggle with self-esteem (men too, but they rarely discuss it). I love the "I Matter" campaign with its simple, positive message! xo

  4. I don't think we validate each other--as women--sufficiently. Not as much as we snipe at each other. Women are beautiful inside and out, all women, and I just don't get why we don't understand that.

  5. The "I Matter" topic should be tied in with bullying. Because women can start to think they matter, and then more women come and tear them down instead of raising them up. We as women can help others realize they matter with POSITIVE actions and words.

  6. Hello cute lady! Thank you for hosting. I love stopping by your fabulous party. Please come and party with us. We would love to have you! http://loulougirls.blogspot.com/
    Happy Thursday! Lou Lou Girls

  7. We need to set a good example for our daughters by showing them that WE matter. That taking care of ourselves is NOT selfish. It includes eating nutritious food, exercising, getting enough rest, dressing well and getting a flattering haircut. Self-care is not self-indulgence. I just gave my DIL a big lecture about putting on her own oxygen mask. I hope she was paying attention!

  8. It is still an issue and I still struggle with it. I look at my life now and what I thought it would be as a teenager and think where did I go wrong. Even though things are not picture perfect in my life I have learn to come to terms with it and just go with the flow. It still does not mean that I will not have set backs every now and then.

  9. Self esteem will always be an issue. In some ways I think social media increases this. Even as an adult when reading blogs it is easy to think the people writing all have the perfect life. That is often the picture put on blogs. So I understand how hard it can be for our teens and even preteens to understand that what they see is usually not the whole person.

  10. I dont know. I think it will always be an issue. Especially for teenagers with them trying to find their places in life. And rolemodels can have such a tremendous effect. Thanks for hosting Pam. xo Sabina @Oceanblue Style

  11. I have suffered with a Self Esteem issue my whole life because of weight issues. We all have to try to love ourselves first!!

    Thanks for hosting!!



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