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Jun 18, 2014


Welcome to I MATTER Thursday, everyone! This will be Post#23 in this series, and I have so enjoyed reading your feed back.  I am currently in the middle of teaching summer school speech to high school students.

The importance of positive self-talk always surfaces during a speech class...so many lack self confidence in the beginning.  But, this made me think about how important positive messages in our head are for women.

When I went through my makeover right at ten years ago, I had to actually train myself to react positively when I looked in the mirror. Before that, I always focused on the negative first...

I'm so fat!
My hair is turning gray!
My mouth is wrinkled!
There is a vein coming out of my nose! (seriously, there is!)
I look bloated!

So, how did I stop?  Again, training the thoughts inside my head. And I had to stop listening to people in my life who criticized me and were negative.  So, before I allow myself to think negatively, I immediately focus on something I like...

My eyes look really green today!
My neck is not sagging!
My hair looks healthy!
I think I lost five pounds!
My arms are looking toned!

It is possible to STOP yourself and change the messages; then over time, it becomes easier.  When I carry the I MATTER sign, I am saying inside that I do matter and I have worth, value, purpose, and beauty (no matter my size, age, etc.)  NO MESSAGE inside or outside of myself can take that away!  

Love the critical people in your life, and understand that their criticisms are about them and not you.  It is time for you to stop giving their negativity a platform in your life.  You can do this...I did.

I hope all of you still struggling with negative self-talk, will begin today to turn those messages into positive ones.  YOU ARE WORTH IT...YOU MATTER!  Tell me one thing that is awesome about your appearance today!  Then go visit the fabulous bloggers of Katie's Favorite Things Blog Hop!!


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  1. I needed to read this today, Pam! I fight hard to show that women with disabilities matter, but sometimes it's a losing battle. Thanks for this reminder that I shouldn't give up.
    I love the fact that I do the best I can - and my best isn't half bad ;-)


  2. I like this simple idea. I'm going to try and change the negative talk to the mirror to something positive. So simple yet powerful. I think I'll put a sign up also to remind myself. Thanks!

  3. I'm giving this a shot! What is awesome about my appearance today is my eyes. I recently discovered a new mascara that makes my eyes really open up and look so pretty! And even though it is pouring and humid, I have my hair fixed in a way that isn't competing with the weather and it looks cute! Whew! That felt weird, but good! Karen

  4. Thanks for the positivity to start the day, Pam. xox

  5. Hi Pam, I love my hairstyle now. I feel young and ready to take on the world.

  6. I love this post for so many reasons. I haven't done any self-talk in a long time, so thanks for the reminder. This post really spoke to me. Thanks again, Pamela. I truly hope our paths meet someday.

  7. Awesome party! Thanks for hosting. Please come and party with us. We would love to have you! http://loulougirls.blogspot.com/
    Happy Thursday! Lou Lou Girls

  8. You are SO right! You matter and so do we all. I think that it is so important to remember that when we allow ourselves to matter we also give others permission to do the same. Some of us who are REALLY hard on other people (especially women) are REALLY hard on themselves. Once we lighten up and learn to love ourselves that love is more easily shared with others. ....ps....thanks for hosting the blog hop!

  9. Thank you soooooooooooo much for this post, dear Pam.
    Joining you inmediately
    Tons of love

  10. Positive self talk is so important for women of any age. I'm working on it for myself! Thanks for reminding us. I'm happy that I've lost 5 pounds and my summer shorts are fitting well!

  11. Wow! I don't think I struggle with negative self-talk but having to actually come up with something positive to say here was a bigger challenge than I would have thought. I actually had to stand in front of the mirror and think about what to say. So, what is awesome about my appearance today? I'm tall and slim with excellent posture, I had a good haircut recently and my smile, though still slightly crooked from recent surgery, is bright and cheerful.

  12. I need to improve my self talk, and I am going to share this post with my teen age daughter, so she is begins to practice this before she ever slips in to negative self-talk! I had to think hard about what I would say, but I guess today I am feeling positive that I looked healthy and strong when I took my dog for a walk at a brisk pace today.

  13. I love this post, seems like I can always find something negative to say about myself daily. I am following and joining the hop today. Hope you will stop by my blog and say Hello. Happy Thursday!

  14. Brilliant post, Pam...and yes, we do matter! Self talk, positive thinking we all need this...it's remembering to do it! Thank you for the reminder...you are a STAR! xx

  15. This post really resonates with me. My youngest will be 2yrs in August, and I had been carrying about 30lbs of baby weight that just wouldn't come off. Over the last year I've been a really harsh critic to myself, even feeling like I didn't want to go out or do things anymore. I finally hit a wall a few months ago and decided I didn't want to feel that way anymore. I started allowing myself to feel good in my skin, even if I was overweight, and just focus on being healthy and happy. And wouldn't you know it, as soon as I shifted my perspective, the weight started coming off. I'm 20 lbs down, and although I'm still working on another 10-15lbs, I feel better than I have in a long time. So thanks for the reminder to keep it up, and for encouraging others to do the same! Hope you have a wonderful weekend Pam!

  16. I cannot believe I found you! With a tear and (dare I say) a smidgen of hope I placed your list of THURSDAYS as a regular TAB on my PC. What an encouragement to me, you just don't know... or maybe you do :) . I am nearly 57 and have such a story... but I have been praying and asking for a renewed inner joy for 'who I was created to be'. So I've done two things: signed up to sew for a missions group, and now to read and perhaps connect with some of the women here.

    Many thanks for your bravery. When I look in the mirror I sometimes see the young girl (with my maiden name) and wonder, "Are you still there sweetheart?" Yep. She is... just a bit dimmed. But I ain't dead yet!

    To what matters most as we serve... and our significance.
    Meg S


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