over50feeling40: OK, I Matter...Now What? AND Thursday Favorite Things Blog Hop!
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Jan 15, 2014

OK, I Matter...Now What? AND Thursday Favorite Things Blog Hop!

Meet Dorothy….she is 65 years old with nine grandchildren…retired…but works odd jobs here and there including substitute teaching.  Dorothy’s daughter was the one who sat her down eight years ago at age 57 and said, “Mom, it is time you joined the modern world!”  Under their assistance, she went from frumpy to fabulous!  They helped her begin with a new hairstyle and new, youthful, trendy clothing!  Soon after that, Dorothy lost weight with NUTRISYSTEMS!  One thing lead to another, and the end result is enjoyment of life and a big smile!

First, I would like to thank you for all of the comments and emails about this series!  For those who may be just joining us on Thursdays here are the first two installments of the I MATTER series:

Maybe you have always taken care of yourself…congratulations…but odds are you know someone who doesn’t and is trapped in a depression or silent despair.  Please pass these posts along…the whole intention is the help as many women as possible from young mothers to retirees!

Ok, so you read the first two posts.  You are ready to make a change, but honestly do not know where to begin. 
I can remember looking in the mirror and thinking… Pamela, you need help….but
I had no extra money.
I was too embarrassed to ask another women for help.
I did not know about blogs.
Fashion and beauty magazines did not seem to be for the every- day, middle- income, overweight woman.

What to do?

That was when my own daughter introduced me to “What Not To Wear.” (Sadly, now over) The first episode I watched was about a woman who was frumpy with low self- esteem…in fact, I wondered if they had been in my closet!  I wasn’t offended by the direct approach of Stacy London and Clinton Kelly.  I needed a slap in the face!
But, this was the first time I heard about dressing for your body type…age appropriate dressing…where and how to save on clothing…and the importance of dressing for each and every day no matter what was on the schedule.   They convinced me I needed to learn more, so I literally began to study fashion and beauty!  I read books, magazines, and watched a variety of fashion television.  I read, watched, experimented and began a process of turning myself around.  You must be willing to become a student of yourself.  It will help!  A few of the books on my shelf include:

Next time…the first big change I made upon deciding I MATTER will be revealed.  Until then, order at least one book and get started!

Have a fabulous day and make sure you visit other bloggers in Katie’s Favorite Things Blog Hop!


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  1. Pamela, I wrote an article for ThriftTown titled: How Old is too Old to Wear a Mini Skirt? As part of my research I submitted a photo to What Not to Wear's Facebook page.I learned something about myself as a result. Here is the link to the article in case you would like to read it:

  2. What an inspirational post. I love how you went above and beyond-learned about the topic before diving in!

  3. i used to watch that show. Some of the episodes touched pretty close to home. Great post.

  4. What a great thing you are doing here, Pam. I love what not to wear. You really could write motivational books and give speeches. You are your own little Stacey London from Texas. xo

  5. Love the "I matter" theme! I am new here by way of Katherine's Blog Hop. Am following you on bloglovin' now.

  6. I matter, too! Thanks for introducing us to Dorothy. I am encouraged by stories like hers to try a little harder and reach a little higher in my daily life. I'm very interested to see how many women jump on this bandwagon.


  7. I love your "I matter" series! I've been thinking that I need to update my look...I'm new here from Katherine's Corner. Thanks so much for hosting! Aloha, Lori

  8. Hi Pamela,
    (Not sure if my last comment made it thru...)
    I love your "I matter series". It's funny but I've been thinking recently that I need to update my look! I'm visiting from Katherine's Corner. Thanks so much for hosting! Aloha, Lori

  9. I love this post, I think as daughters we definitely have to let our moms see that yes they do matter. :)

  10. Real nice post Pam- Good for her!


  11. Thanks for the invite to link up! I shared my West Elm inspired sharpie mugs. Have a great day!

    Put A Bird On It

  12. Oh, you remind me of the years (decades) of battles with weight (still an issue, but the amount of variation is much much smaller). And more so - the issues of self-esteem, when you constantly put yourself last (taking care of kids, trying to pay the bills)...

    I love that you're posing the "then what" question. Sometimes, we make a significant change (like dramatic weight loss), but we aren't psychologically prepared for the "new normal" that comes after. For example, we aren't suddenly and overwhelmingly confident after weight loss; we may in fact feel slightly vulnerable and uncertain. Or, our love lives don't magically improve.We haven't adjusted or prepared for the "then what" aspects... SO important when dealing with change - even positive change.

  13. I am really enjoying your 'I Matter" posts. I shared them with my Mom today:)

  14. wonderful color ( part of my favorite purple family) I know I have said it before but... I love this series. Thank you for spreading the word about the hop and for being an awesome co hostess ♥

  15. Oh Pam … this series is fabulous and so very valuable! You and I are definitely similar in our desire to inspire others to a share in our life lessons! What powerful words you chose … I matter! took me years to truly embrace these in my heart of hearts!

    Thank you my dear … for doing and sharing! I send you huge hugs!


  16. Pam ... keep up these inspiring "I Matter" posts! pippa


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