over50feeling40: Black & White...The Looks and the Talk!
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Jul 7, 2013

Black & White...The Looks and the Talk!

My taste is pretty easy to see if you walk inside my closet...I love black and white...neutrals and prints!


That hasn't really changed much over the years, but if you walked inside my head...it would be a different story.

I can remember a time, in my forties, when I would look in the mirror...say YUCK...and leave the house for the day!  Not surprising that many of those days dragged on with little enjoyment.






We are usually our own worse critics.  But, I have learned that "self-talk" can be powerful and make a huge difference as to how we look and feel every day.  There was a long time when I thought words like FABULOUS, SAVVY, AMAZING...belonged to anyone but me!
But, the last ten years have changed all of that...now I OWN those words.  I don't care of the rest of the world thinks the same, all that matters is that I do.  My self talk has kicked out the negative and when it begins to creep in, I verbally say STOP!  


I will no longer allow anyone...including that little negative voice which sometimes comes back...to rob me of my joy!!

I am as fabulous as any
flower in the garden. Can you say the same?


This has nothing to do with how expensive your clothes are or how skinny your body is or how tight your skin.  It has to with looking and feeling our best every day and then loving the fact that we do!
The black and white of it is....What do you think of you?  I think all of you are amazing!  Now, go have a great week!!


Lane Bryant Print Tunic Top (I love this top!!)

(Ring purchased at consignment shop last year)

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39 comments:

  1. Inspiring post...wise words...and you have to live it to learn it! I love black and white myself and you look great in it! Blogging DOES help, doesn't it? It's helped give me more confidence AND seeing everyone's great outfits inspires me to try new things. Love your post. Debbie @ ilovemylemonadelife.com

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  2. That is a great top. You could wear it like a jacket with just a tank on 95 degree days like today.

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  3. WONDERFUL words of wisdom. Continue to pass them on.

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  4. Loving that blouse you are wearing and that fabulous necklace
    You are adorable with the glasses
    Brett

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  5. hear, hear! well said, Pam and what a cool-looking outfit. Thanks for sharing with Vis Monday!

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  6. Great outfit and I like your necklace and ring! ^_^

    Kim,USA

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  7. I have been saying this same thing for a very long time. I have watched my sister's negative self talk and learned very early on the importance of what we say to ourselves. I thank my father for teaching me to be my onw best friend.. It's really amazing to me that it is his legacy as I was just 13 when he passed.

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  8. Yes! Yes! Yes!.... to everything you just said! And may I say, that you look every one of those adjectives in this outfit. You'd still be all of them in a flannel nightgown though as long as that smile and inner joy were illuminating you. Beautiful and positive thoughts today, Pam. This blog is so encouraging. Thank you.

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  9. Oh yes.....I can totally relate! The 40s are my best years & no negativity can bring me down ANYMORE!

    Rebecca
    www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

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  10. It's so true! We are what we tell ourselves. You look great in B&W. Always a favorite of mine, too.

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  11. Well, actually, I think you're more fabulous than the flower (and that flower is pretty fabulous). I can tell just by looking at your pictures that you're comfortable in your own skin. For me, that feeling has come with age. Great post!
    Heather from Friendship, Life and Style

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  12. Fabulous! Savvy! Amazing! Couldn't be more true. And your hand is gorgeous.

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  13. What a great post - I am most definitely my own worst critic - constantly destroying photos of myself - when I'm gone there's going to be very few in existance lol
    Loving your necklace and ring!
    XOXOX

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  14. I love the power of positive thinking and try to remember that. You look wonderful!

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  15. Perfect message for a Monday morning, and you look terrific! Have a great week!

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  16. You are so right about self-talk...love the part about being as fabulous as any flower in the garden! YES! Such a cute ensemble today...great elements, all put together beautifully!

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  17. You are so right about self-talk...love the part about being as fabulous as any flower in the garden! YES! Such a cute ensemble today...great elements, all put together beautifully!

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  18. I am a big fan of black and white. This summer I have added a pop of color in the form of a cardigan or blouse - bright red, blue or yellow are some of my favorites. Add a bangle in complimentary color and I feel polished and ready to go!

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  19. You're a fabulous, gorgeous, inspiring flower!!

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  20. Great point. I had to remind myself of how negative self talk can bring about other negativity if you let it. Brene Brown is great at bringing this out in Daring Greatly. Thanks for reaffirming this for me. Great blog concept too! Congrats!

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  21. I love that print on you, it's wonderful. I've gotten better about self-talk over the years, more positive and trying to leave the negative behind. XO, Jill

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  22. You look fabulous! I'm a big fan of black, white and neutrals as well. You can never go wrong with those colors.

    Have a great week!

    -Jenny
    http://www.babblingsofamommy.com/2013/07/fffweek-2013-bloomingdales-runway-show.html

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  23. I love the look today, and find black and white a great staple in my wardrobe. Since I'm now moving forward to greater numbers in age, I to see the need to stop the voice in my head at times. Color is my new black. Have a great day.

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  24. Yes! I was amazed in my early 40s to begin realizing how negative my self-messages were. I was meaner to myself than any other human I encountered. It took several years to retrain my way of thinking.

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  25. Great post and outfit! It's so true about the importance of talking to yourself kindly. I'll occasionally realize how negative I'm being towards myself and frequently try to turn it around.

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  26. What a wonderful top! The colors and the pattern.. amazing!
    This colors fits perfect to you :)

    Dana, Germany
    http://danalovesfashionandmusic.blogspot.de

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  27. You look just great. I love the black and white and also your silver jewelry.

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  28. I think you're amazing and you write about your experiences very eloquently. I just wish more women could accept themselves and be as honest about their evolution as you are.

    Who me? I'm all that with a cherry on top ;-)

    Alicia

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  29. Yes, yes and more yes! We all need more positive self talk, good for you for reminding me. You do look fabulous in this black and white outfit. Let's take on the world with this attitude!

    blue hue wonderland

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  30. Great ring! Love the inspiration!

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  31. You look fabulous Pam, all put together beautifully; however it is the smile that tells me you are happy, confident and a beautiful woman!

    xoxo
    Karena
    2013 Artists Series

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  32. p.s. I had licked the self doubt until I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and it was impossible to lose the baby weight. Trying to be kinder to myself!

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  33. You ARE fabulous! Seriously, you're the cutest thing ever. You rock this black and white look, and I'm crazy about your necklace! I'm following you on Bloglovin' now. (:

    May the Force be with you.
    Emily

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  34. Preach Sister...you look Great! I know for sure that I am a sexy, confident, slightly older girl. Linking up #VisibleMonday.

    http://mykurves.blogspot.com

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  35. This is my first stop at your interesting blog. Just happened upon your blog through French Essence and FYI - I purchased the most beautiful scarf I have ever seen in my life at Old Navy. It goes with almost everything and makes everything look so elegant. Ross is also my favorite place to buy dresses and my husband never complains about the prices - good quality, low prices.

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  36. What a neat blog! I happened upon your blog via French Essence. FYI - I purchased the most beautiful scarf I have ever seen in my life at Old Navy. It goes with almost anything. Ross is also one of my favorite places to shop! Their clothes are in style, of good quality and they are very reasonably priced. Dresses fly off the racks fast, so I have learned to go the day after a truck comes in early in the morning. In other words, my husband doesn't mind it when I shop there because of the prices. They also have an array of sizes.



    Sincerely, Debra from NC

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