(On my POST about the wedding I attended, I received this comment which I did not publish at the time: “I can’t believe you preach fashion and wore that dress. – Anonymous” I decided to respond to Anonymous, because it helps me to explain my POST from last Friday!)
I decided to respond to your rudeness because I represent many women, my age and my body type who struggle with the same issues I do.
Though I don’t know who you are, because you lacked the courage to put your name to your comment. I would like for you to understand how comments like this affect people.
First of all, I do not preach fashion. If I preach anything, it is empowerment, strength, and confidence for women middle age and older. I report about fashion and style. I have never pretended to be anything but what I am…a work in progress….who happens to love the fashion industry.
My closet is currently filled with some fabulous dresses and skirts which no longer fit properly. I have gained extra pounds and have been very upset about it. Yet, the devil on my shoulder whispers, I am about to be sixty so why bother any longer…just live as I am.
But, friends have encouraged me to keep going forward. Some work with a personal trainer and want me to join in... that was when fear began to set in...…
I fear walking into a work out facility and being laughed at behind my back.
I fear failure once again …after many diets and attempts to gain my body back.
I fear judgment from people like you!
However, I decided to suck it up and meet with the trainer. He explained how some diets have slowed my metabolism and though I have been working to lose weight, it has been to no avail because of the harm quick loss diets have done to my system. He explained how harmful it is for me to sit so many hours of the day as I write. He explained how I will have to work hard every day to reach my goals.
But, I think you just gave me that extra push to work harder, even though I should not give a mean spirited comment like yours a second thought. I wore that dress because it was the only dress that fit at the time….and I did not want to purchase something new. I was up front with my readers about how I felt about my dress. Nevertheless, I felt good that night. It was an awesome night with family and friends celebrating love. We had so much fun.
I believe in looking good no matter what size I am...not in the name of fashion, but in the name of joy…strength and dignity.
So, thank you, Anonymous, for giving me even more determination to fit back into my clothes…hey, why don’t you send me a picture of you in your most fashionable outfit…I would love to share it on the blog so we can see the right way to dress!!
Pam@over50feeling40 AND STILL FEELING FABULOUS!