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Jan 31, 2011

A Vintage Celebration!! Enter My Second Contest!!

 I really enjoyed the first contest hosted by over50feeling40 and was so pleased to give the prize to Terri at http://ragsagainstthemachine.blogspot.com!!!

So, I went shopping today for another giveaway and ended up with a Vintage theme!  This pin is gorgeous in a deep saturated blue with fun feathers...great for your hair or your jacket!  I have paired it with these crystal earrings which also have a vintage feel to them. 

This contest is to celebrate all of you who are new to this blog and all of you who have given encouragment and support!

I will pull a name out of a jar....as I did last time....and the number of times your name is in the jar is up to you!

You get one entry for being a follower of this blog.
One entry for following over50feeling40 on Twitter.
One entry for promoting this contest on your blog.
One entry for promoting this contest on Twitter!
One entry if you tell me that you brought a new friend to this site!!
One entry if you click on the mysa.com button on the right and leave a comment on my other blog!!

I will draw the winning entry on Valentine's Day, February 14....in honor of LOVE!!

Jan 30, 2011

We Need A Little Springtime, Now!

I got this great light weight jacket in the current
Coldwater Creek clearance for $19!  It's 59% cotton and
41% Linen...I love the khaki ribbon detailing!
Reminds me of SPRING!



This is the time of year when hope blossoms just a little bit….after January some begin to see little glimpses of seasonal changes…the hope of spring to come. March is just four weeks away, and, as Maria sang, “spring will come again.”



Today’s post is dedicated to the need for spring! I read so many blogs each week where struggles within are evident….some are battling self- acceptance….some relationship issues….some the struggles of serious illness either their own or a loved one….some are bummed by the intense winter weather itself….we all have our individual struggles.


We have been assessing all weekend a break in at our home….this comes at a time when I have been working with a doctor to get my health in better shape that will require some big changes in days to come (which I will share with you later); planning a wedding and all of the stress which surrounds it; and many changes with my job; my freelance writing ramping up so to speak; and helping my son work through disappointments and what his future after high school holds.


One of the ways I deal with “the winter of my discontent” is my sense of humor. We have laughed as we imagined the thieves walking in our bathroom and being frightened by the hat rack full of scarves (it looks like a colorful Cousin It) or opening our son’s bedroom door and thinking as they saw chaos, “Oh someone already has been here!” 


Also, I take things one day at a time….I only have to go to the blogs to see that my issues are miniscule compared to some of you….I try to take my focus off of me and place it on others….and I pray without ceasing.


Finally, it might sound materialistic, but….a spring outfit or saturated color can brighten me up any day!! In the midst of winter, we all need a little spring. Now, just hum the tune to WE NEED A LITTLE CHRISTMAS and sing: “ We need a little springtime…right this very minute…we need a little springtime and the sunshine that comes with it…yes we need a little springtime…right this very minute…we need a little springtime...NOW!!  I can’t hear you….sing out loud!!

Jacket: Coldwater Creek
Brown Blouse: Lane Bryant
Liz Claiborne Denim Skirt: Macys
Brown Boots: Ross
Earrings: Chicos

Jan 29, 2011

Bloggers: Beware and Be Smart!





Last night was a typically busy one…I met with a wedding planner after school, rushed home, met my husband and friends for dinner, and headed over to a high school basketball game. What wasn’t typical is when we got home, we discovered a break in!


While waiting on police I processed what did happen and what could have happened. When I rushed home, I placed my lap top on the bed and my camera was right beside it. I can remember thinking I don’t have time to set it up on the desk, so I tossed a blanket over it. Not my normal behavior, but quite possibly Divine Intervention. It was sitting all snug under the blanket…next to a pillow which lost its pillow case to the robbers so they had a bag to fill.


My lap top is fairly new…not yet a year old…and I have never backed up the files. Since becoming a blogger (now of two blogs), I would have been devastated if the lap top was gone….not valuable to anyone but me. My document….interviews…notes...some un-uploaded pictures….all stored….what I thought, was safely here.


Now, I am just mad…we have a window to replace and much cleanup work on an already busy Saturday. For those of you who read this blog regularly, you know that I just cleaned and organized the closet…well, I have to go do it again….they threw jewelry and other items literally everywhere.


I learned a lesson and will back things up immediately! If you are like me…..you might want to do the same!



NOW, WE NEED TO BE AWARE OF OTHER PRECAUTIONS!
Go To Grit and Glamour for more information:

Jan 28, 2011

Friend Friday: The Process...Needing An Update!


Sometimes the art room is the back drop!
At least it is not MY room all
the time!






1. What technology do you use in blogging? I am a young (ha,ha) student learning so much in this area. Throughout today you will read much more impressive answers than mine….but I have goals and I am learning daily! So, here goes…..I have a Dell Laptop! In the classroom, I use MACS all the way, but personally I am more comfortable with a PC! For photography, I currently use a NIKON cool pix…my sweet children gave me last summer for my birthday. My phone is antiquated…my kids (and recently my husband) have the cool ones.






2. What computer and online technology do you use? I am currently using Blogger; however, the blog I just started with the San Antonio Express News online is a WORDPRESS blog. So, I am going to use it for awhile and possibly switch the other one to WORDPRESS at some point. I also use PICASA for my editing pictures. I like PICASA and do not have any issues with it at this time. I realize PHOTOSHOP is way cooler…but I will be evaluating this when I really understand where my blogs are headed. I am using Twitter basically to promote the blog and I just recently set up a FACEBOOK page…but it comes with more issues than I really want to deal with at this time. I already have many students asking me to be their friends and I do not want to cross that line. I have much to ponder there.






3. What is your process for taking pictures? This has been tough. My classroom is NOT the greatest place for pictures, but it is my world every day. I have a wonderful friend, Mrs. Joy, who has agreed to come into my one off period and snap a photo for me. She is vitally important to this process right now, because no one else is really around to do this for me after school. I am attempting to take more outfit pictures on the weekends and store them up…just so I have more interesting backgrounds. But, weekends are busy, so that is a challenge as well. There also have been times that I changed my blog theme ideas and threw out the weekend pictures in order to go with something else. As of right now, I am attempting to get more creative within the four walls of my classroom where I live….when your students are producing a 32-page monthly news magazine; a news website; a broadcast station; and a yearbook…you kind of live here.


The fabulous Mrs. Joy...my photographer!
This would never happen without her!
She is the best!!






4. When it comes to backdrops for your photos what do you consider? Do you scout locations or shoot the same spot daily? One of my goals for 2011 is to have more “on location” shots. There are some amazing places around San Antonio for style photos….if I can just get the time and a willing photographer. Possibly upgrading my camera and using a tripod will alleviate some of the photography challenges.






5. If you could splurge and get one new piece of equipment what would you be buying? For me, it would first be an IPHONE and then a FLIP CAMERA. I would love to add some video to the blog and with both of those I believe I would have it covered. I would like an IPHONE for many reasons. I really cannot TWEET like I would like to until I upgrade the phone.

Now for more answers to how all of the talented bloggers get their talents on display for you to enjoy, just go to Modly Chic at http://www.modlychic.com/!!

Jan 27, 2011

Blast From the Past - Look #4

Black Turtleneck: Gap
Jacket: Coldwater Creek
Pinstiped Trouser: Lane Bryant
Necklace: Chicos



Let me confess up front….I’m not a fan of turtlenecks. I always felt like they were choking me and actually made me appear larger than I am. I much prefer a V neck sweater..or cowl…or boatneck. But, I have allowed this black turtleneck to hang around my closet for over 15 years and I usually wear it at least once a winter….I tried to change one year and bought thrift turtlenecks in many colors…which eventually went right back to thrift.



Researching the history of the turtleneck, did not endear me to mine at all. Any fashion statement that was originally worn by dock workers should be suspect from the beginning! The dark “seaman” look is really not all that attractive. But I will concede…occasionally, the classic black turtleneck can have its place and serve its purpose.


I do not ascribe to the one site I found which said,

Clothes Women Should Never Wear


From Turtlenecks to Tapered Pants, Styles That Don't Suit Your Shape

Never say never. Depending on how you style turtlenecks…I think they can suit your shape but it requires pairing them with a great jacket!! Nevertheless, this is probably my one time for this winter…but, never say never!!


Seychelles Flats: Marshalls


GREAT NEWS!!!!
This has been an exciting week for me as I began on the San Antonio Express News website and now have been chosen as one of Independent Fashion Bloggers Links a-la-mode
Selections.  Check out all of the great choices here:http://heartifb.com/2011/01/27/links-a-la-mode-the-ifb-weekly-roundup-38/

Jan 26, 2011

Blast From the Past - Look #3

Time Flies: I cannot believe this jacket and scarf
are now about 31 years old!!








AHHH…memories! It is interesting how so many women have certain types of memories revolving around clothing. Just yesterday, one of you remembered the polka dot dress you had as a two year old! When I found this blue jacket amidst my closet cleaning, I just couldn’t bring myself to toss it on the thrift donation pile.






Suddenly, I was back in the late 70s/early 80s…a twenty-something jet setting communicator….traveling all around the US (I remember one two week period when I was on 13 different planes)….enjoying a job where I got to practice both of my loves (public speaking and writing)…it was a magical time for me.








I had a goal for my free time in each city….SHOP TIL YOU DROP! My idea of a souvenir was not a T shirt screaming VIVA LAS VEGAS…but rather a great looking jacket. I loved looking at my wardrobe and remembering which piece came from which city…silk blouses from Montreal; an incredible full skirt from Georgetown; a beautiful designer jacket from Bergdorf Goodman in NYC. Even today, I can remember every city and what I purchased there; whether it was Baton Rouge or Chicago.






Most of my purchases had to be thrifted because once I began having babies, my body was never the 20-something body again. However, everything about the style of some 1980s jackets was OVERSIZED. This jacket was a purchase in Las Vegas …a boutique off the strip. The fact that I can still wear it tells you that it was HUGE back then. I bought the scarf at Lord & Taylor’s in Washington D.C. around the same time. I still love the print, but it is a short scarf by today’s standards, so I do not wear it that often. I use to pair the jacket and the scarf with a beautiful blouse I bought in Montreal…which unfortunately met up with a terrible grease stain about five years after purchase.








I do not know how much I will really wear this jacket…but I do know that I may not toss it…just so every now and then I can look at it and say THANKS FOR THE MEMORIES.


Miss Dot:  Super Shopper!


AND THIS WEEK'S BARGAIN SHOPPER AWARD GOES TO:
Miss Dot!!
Ross Clearance Rack:
Brown Trousers: 99 cents
Red Sweater:  $2.50!!!  

Finally, check out this week's Links a la mode from
Independent Fashion Bloggers:




BlogLove


Links à la Mode: The IFB Weekly Roundup


8 Comments 20 January 2011














“I have confidence that spring will come again, Besides which you see I have confidence in me”






Edited by Florrie Clarke of Intrinsically Florrie






Within this week’s links I kept noticing a resounding honestly in the heartfelt posts. When we blog or choose an outfit we are putting ourselves out there for all to judge, and it’s not surprising that doing the activity can have an affect on our confidence for better or for worse, especially when feedback starts coming in.


There’s also been a sense of rebellion in the air: from the emergence of the punk style to controversy over Vogue, and in the week that saw the spectacle which is the Golden Globes rises a questioning of what the red carpet is all about.











Links à la Mode: January 20th


A la Modest Drawing inspiration from Kabukis, Rainbow Brite, Ladytron, and Padmé Amidala while on Tatooine


Antares: Alfa Scorpii Fashion without mercy: do I have to choose between fashion and my beliefs?


By Anika Who gets to label me and my worth? I do! An honest account from this curvy fashionista who fiercely supports all of our rights to label, embrace and love our fashionable selves, what ever our size.


City of Glitter To Cover-up or Not To Cover-up? A post exploring foundation and its role in our self-esteem.


Crimson Rosella Blogging: A Self-confidence booster?

Depict This The challenge of wearing vintage clothing in the real world


Elle Enchanted My take on what bloggers need to consider before accepting a sponsor.


Fashezine Inspired by Jennine Jacob’s post on how fashion blogs will evolve in 2011, I thought I’d try my hand at a video.


Fashion Limbo Online Christmas Shopping, the Aftermath – on lost packages, refunds and independent retailers.


Fuyume The demise of the kimono industry.


Fish Monkey’s Writing Stuff Why I don’t think that red carpets have any relevance to fashion.


Independent Fashion Bloggers: 5 Tips for Taking Better Photos of Yourself


Intrinsically Florrie The fashion show that’s made me impatient for summer.


Karma-Style Blog Lady Gaga and Nicki Minaj have ‘FoF’ – Fearlessness of Fashion. Do you?


My Heart Blogged Falling head over flats. My flats collections, and why you don’t see me wearing heels.


Scarlet Letter Style Why is the fashion world so critical? I have an idea on how to fix it


The Column of Samantha Tyler Of Punks and their influence on Fashion


The Fashion Pawn The fourth part of The B.O.B Series discusses all “About You:” Tips for your About You Page.


The-Loud Mouth Sometimes, garbage piles up: Fashion blogging isn’t just a hobby. For some, it can be an emotional release.


The Taxonomy Of My Wardrobe Three Strikes Vogue – You’re Out! Three examples of how the fashion bible is inexcusably out of touch with readers and losing relevance in today’s world


The Simply Luxorious Life Why Not . . . Create Your Own Signature Style?


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Jan 25, 2011

Blast From the Past - Look #2


RED cardigan: Marshall's
Jeans: Coldwater Creek
Polka Dot Top: Lane Bryant
Boots: Marshall's
Vintage Earrings: Resale



I believe there are fashion trends which never really go away…they are just tweaked season after season in order to add a different spin!! Animal prints…stripes…and today’s topic, POLKA DOTS are examples of this.



My first real memory of polka dots is a song…you know…”it was an itsy, bitsy, teeny, weeny yellow polka dot bikini…that she wore for the first time today…” but I do know for sure that I have always thought fondly of this print. It makes me smile whenever I wear it.


Love these vintage earrings from Garment Exchange Resale in
San Antonio


According to Wikipedia, polka dot was first used in a Godey’s magazine in 1873….and yes, it was named after the dance, but no one really knows why. Apparently, there were many products during that time which cashed in on the dance’s extreme popularity. Also, I, personally, like the fact that this is the fabric of flamenco dancers and performers…maybe that is why I want to smile when I wear it!! Also, this pattern is associated with Venezuelan fashion designer, Carolina Herrera, who featured it on most of her dresses in the late 80s and early 90s.


I also think of the red polka dot dress in the movie, Because I Said So, starring Diane Keaton and Mandy Moore…..the mom had a passion for this fabric! No matter the reason, I am glad that this fabric never really goes away and I can pull it out from time to time and SMILE!!


I put on polka dots...got in my car at 5:40 A.M....turned on the radio to
hear this song (Matt Maher: Hold Us Together)...I have smiled all day!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-he2DohfwWE

Jan 24, 2011

Blasts from the Past - Look #1

Jacket : Lane Bryant
Lace Topped Sweater: Lane Bryant
Belt: Vintage Chico's
Skirt: Goodwill
Tights: Lane Bryant
Shoes: Target
In my recent closet purge, I discovered several nostalgic wardrobe pieces and items that reminded me of the past. Therefore, this week, I tip my hat to the past and go on a quest to see if these items still work or if maybe they need to stay in the dusty ancient historical records.


Back in the 1970s, fishnet hosiery was entering its second decade on the fashion scene. This trend mostly came out of the Beatles/British era and that is where the look attracted my attention as I began college. My mother hated them and was not shy about telling me that I looked like a street walker in them. But with mini-skirts, boots, and fish nets….a girl just couldn’t go wrong!!


Though not fish nets, these tights reminded me of them….so they are my first fashion reflection. I haven’t worn a patterned tight in several years and I really enjoyed wearing them today!!




In our present day world, fish nets have gained a new, clean reputation. According to an article from Yahoo….”In 2000, fishnet lost a bit of its alternativeness, and became, according to Deborah Boria, an "acceptable, sophisticated choice for leg wear." Boria is executive director of merchandising and design at Sara Lee Hosiery, which holds licenses for DKNY and Donna Karan hosiery lines. More women began wearing fishnet hose to work, wearing them under knee length skirts”


Bracelet and Earrings: Stein Mart


JUST A NOTE: For all of you who like thrifting, today’s skirt was $3.00 at Goodwill!

Jan 23, 2011

Beware of the Buzzards



They hover everyday near my end of town where this
is lots of foliage and brush. 




Hormonal-Dysfunctional. That is what my 18 year old son labeled me in the car yesterday! “Mom is hormonal-dysfunctional.” He doesn’t understand what hormones have to do with anything, but he understands that I am very punchy!



My trip to meet a new woman doctor last week revealed that I have been on the wrong hormone replacement for a long time….which I suspected and that is one thing that led me to change doctors. The good news is that changing to the right one has a wealth of benefits…the bad news is, while in the midst of a change, as the doctor put it, “YOU MIGHT WANT TO HURT SOMEONE!”


Maybe, that is why I am so angry about buzzards! The buzzards are retailers who prey on the low self esteem of seasoned women in order to make a buck. On the day of my doctor visit, I opened the mail box to find a catalog which trumpted , “Comfort, fit, and value for the plus size woman….love what your wear!” It is a collection of oversized……cheap…..bad fabrics….frumpy….unflattering….poorly designed clothing.


Look how these two beautiful ladies are
made to appear in these unflattering
dresses!!

Elastic waist pants are one of the
worst fits and most unflattering
pieces a woman can put on
her body!!



It angers me. This type of clothing holds women in a trap of despondency….defeatism. I see so many who dress this way because they believe it is the only option. They have bought into the lie that because they are older and because they are heavier, they are sentenced to elastic waistbands, and dresses designed like fancy garbage bags. Or they are convinced that these are the only clothes they can afford.


Please join me in shooing off these buzzards! I hope to find a way to reach the ladies who purchase from catalogs like this one and show them other options. All they have to do is click a mouse and go the the blogs. …..they will find inspiration and ideas there for every age and every size. There is no reason to hide in the pages of catalogs like this and allow life to shut them down.


Even skinny models look big in these shirts!


Beware of the Buzzards!!


Meanwhile….you might find members of my family….students from my school…..and friends…hiding in the brush somewhere waiting for that all important hormone prescription to kick in!!


Now, for the FUN big announcement I have tweeted about…..Our local newspaper, The San Antonio Express News, has added a version of this blog to their City Brights Blog Page on their website. We officially kicked off this weekend. I am going to be learning Word Press and I am so excited to see how this is received! As they transition to Word Press, we cannot add pictures for now…but it is in the works!  http://blog.mysanantonio.com/over50feeling40/2011/01/the_wake_up_call/



Thank goodness there is a place for the hormonal
dysfunctional of the world!!

Jan 21, 2011

Friend Friday: Authenticity!!


Good Morning Everyone!!



Most readers and fellow fashion bloggers value authenticity in the blogs they read. How would you describe blog/blogger authenticity? I think authentic bloggers are those who do not take themselves too seriously and are willing to share their real life around the blog. Fashion/Style is not just about clothes and the bloggers who understand that are the ones who appear more authentic and thus are enjoyable to read.



When it comes to your blog, how do you infuse it with that true authentic feeling? I hopefully come off as a 58 year old woman hoping to help other 50+ ladies enjoy and experience life. Therefore, I have to be real…..over 50 includes bungles, clenched teeth, hot flashes, incontinence, bone density scans….part of your style is how you face and deal with all of that. If I present myself as a Vogue-fashionista with a life of runways and photo shoots, then no one is going to buy into that!! My favorite reader comment has been that they find my blog to be uplifting…that comment makes me smile! Life is too short to spend it DEFEATED. I also have to be humble about the fact that I have much to learn about technology!!






Have you stopped following a blog in the last three months? Absolutely, but maybe for different reasons than some of the younger bloggers...... I am not drawn to blogs that are pretentious and too much like the fashion magazines. The appeal of fashion blogs is that you can find women just like you and learn from each other….you can find the curvy, heavier woman; you can find the woman struggling on a budget and looking for economically friendly fashion, and you can find the Baby Boomers looking to connect and develop a new personal style for the second half of the game.




We can’t communicate on our blogs something we don’t live in real life….what are some ways you try to live an authentic life? I put the picture of Lucy and Ethel on this page because so often I think I lead Lucy’s life…….in order to be authentic and not defeated, I practice a sense of humor and my faith. I believe my blog has been real in reflecting both of those without being too preachy or heavy on the second one. Taking my style and fashion up a notch has helped me to enjoy life more and have more confidence and I want to constantly send that message to other ladies!! But that also means that I must be willing to share the days that I do not feel that way and how I dealt with them. Inevitably, there will be someone who says,” thank you for saying that living with your 86 year old mother is difficult”, and they want to talk about it.






Give a shout out….What bloggers do you think are truly genuine and why? There are many in the community that I believe have become my friends and who I will read first. That is what is so great about the blogging community!! I love Terri @ http://ragsagainstthemachine.blogspot.com/; Serene @http://elegantbohemian.blogspot.com/; Collette @http://www.statementsinfashion.net/; Reva @http://revasrags2roses.blogspot.com/, the ladies of Southern Comfort @ http://southerncomfortga.blogspot.com/; Paula @http://fashionoverfifty.blogspot.com/; and Vanessa@mailto:Vanessa@http://snappyandsavvy.blogspot.com/; Bella@http://www.thecitizenrosebud.com/....so many...these and Dressing Mommy, Style Underdog, and Style Crone are women I would run to hug if I met them any where!!

For more great answers, check out:
http://modlychic.blogspot.com/

HAVE A WONDERFUL WEEKEND!!

Just A Note: In 1967, on this day, The Monkees Released, "I'm A Believer!!"  Loved it then...love it now!





Jan 19, 2011

Copy Catting Again!








Last night was a long, hard night…much stress in our home right now related to, of all things, sports!! If you look closely at my pictures, you can tell the smile is forced and teeth clenched. But, I will save that discussion for someone else.


Sometimes when I wake up in a bad mood, my inspiration for that day’s look is at the bottom of the bucket! So, I went to the handy clippings file to find a look I could mimic.


Above is another page from a Coldwater Creek  http://www.coldwatercreek.com/ catalog. I looked at it and thought….I have that in my closet….the rewards of a recent purge and serious organization moment are that currently I easily know what is in that closet!


Boyfriend Jacket & black sweater: Lane Bryant
Coldwater Creek Jeans
Boots: Ross
Nine West Scarf: Marshalls
Pink Coral Bracelet: Stein Mart
Pink Coral, brown shell, and pearl earrings: Chicos


The catalog features another boyfriend jacket. I first fell in love with this masculine style years ago when I noticed it in movies like vintage Katharine Hepburn and the last apartment scene of Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman.


Saw the scarf at Marshall's one day for $12...hesitated...
went back a week longer and bought it for $5!!  It is
one of my favorites.


The boyfriend jacket style is a little controversial for us curvy gals…some think it is slimming, some think it adds on weight much as any oversized garment does. I happen to like this one from Lane Bryant and believe it is slimming. I think even though it goes past the hips that the seaming and proper fit gives it a slimming affect. My jeans are actually new from Coldwater Creek…purchased for half price…and I have always thought the darker denim, trouser jean is slimming. Finally, the long Nine West scarf is elongating and gives a slimming look…..HEY, I JUST LOST ABOUT 20 POUNDS WITHOUT DOING ANYTHING!


I think I will reward myself with a little Dove Dark Chocolate Square…you know, the day wasn’t as bad as it began!!


Clenched teeth this morning, but I feel better now!






Mrs. Joy models her jacket with great seaming as well...the seams make such a difference!


The Front



The back seams...she looked great!

Jan 18, 2011

Fashion & Freedom


The rule I am about to throw out
the window is the old one which said
don't wear silver with gold or mix
your metals!  Now, any mix goes


I had a whole different strategy for today’s post until I read what Serene had to say at http://elegantbohemian.blogspot.com/




I would like to encourage you to check out her 80s post and then come back here, because she got me to thinking about “freedom” and fashion.


I was wondering the other day why it is that at 58 I enjoy fashion so much more than any other time of my life. I am larger than I used to be…..still way short of funds for the nicer clothes….I am definitely grayer and with more wrinkles…so why exactly is it more fun now.


There go those rules!!


After reading Serene today, it hit me. I have freedom. Now mind you, the freedom was always there….I just didn’t buy into it. In my 20s & 30s, I dressed to impress employers and men! After I was married, I dressed to please a man. After I had children, I dressed to gain the acceptance of the other moms parenting my children’s friends. Those days were particularly stressful because those moms (coming from private schools) were predominantly wealthy and I had no business attempting to play that game.


But, now, I dress for me…..and I am having a great time! I set the rules for me….I do what pleases me…I learn to follow what best suites me. While that may sound a little self- focused, I think what is important here is that I am not worrying about pleasing other people (even Bloggers) and there is great joy inside that concept. Fashion is finally fun! There are many things I will not do…but I know those things are not right for me; and, I no longer do what I think others want me to do just to gain acceptance.


Wow, it is freedom….and so much fun!

Mixed metal hoops: Stein Mart

I found this necklace last year at a boutique in San Antonio.  I am wearing it
with a Coldwater Creek tweed jacket of gray & green; black Lane Bryant sweater; Lane
Bryant pin striped pants; and boots from Ross!



“Jewelry takes people's minds off your wrinkles.”



 Sonja Henie quotes ( ice skater and Actress, 1912-1969)

..........now that's a great quote!!

Jan 17, 2011

Finally, Priority 11 for 2011: Get Organized & Stay Organized!!




For those of you on the tour, to your left you are looking at a deep, dark abyss! A room so frightening the family members have feared the cat, which disappeared last year, would be found in this room! Since entering the blogosphere, the closet owner has been seen in there screaming, crying, and kicking piles around.


Yes, this is what has been hanging over my head! In order for this year to be peaceful and enjoyable, I have known the problem must be dealt with. I avoided it all of Christmas vacation, because I just did not know what to do!! While I have been healed of my thrifting addiction, I am still to this day addicted to scarves and bracelets. They are my favorite! A great scarf can turn any outfit into a work of art and make it look like you spent hours on the masterpiece! What to do with all of the scarves has been a major issue for me.



But two nights ago, as I lay in bed pondering the issue, a solution came to me! A HAT RACK! A hat rack would be perfect because all of the scarves could hang around it and it would be easy for me to view them all at once. The only place to put the hat rack was by the bathtub and I needed to create a look on that wall to make it seem that the hat rack was not a mistake. Side note: We do not use our bath tub. It has a draining problem and requires expensive plumbers, so it pretty much just sits there.






So, this morning I was off to ROSS. I found exactly what I was looking for…a beautiful, gold hat rack with many loops and curls at the top (perfect for draping an embarrassing amount of scarves through) and it was only $39. I also purchased a cute wicker laundry basket to replace our old beat up plastic one. I already had a bamboo & iron hook rack that wasn’t being used which would easily hold a few necklaces and add to the atmosphere around the tub.


Then it was time to get to work:


1. I weeded out! A pile for Goodwill began to grow.




2. I took two antique suitcases from an upstairs bedroom. One now holds purses and the other holds little items I wanted to hang on to just in case I needed them for photography props.




3. I moved a couple of extra lamp shades from my closet to under the stairs.


4. I took the Tupperware box over flowing with bracelets and put all of them in a beautiful tin holder which I purchased at ROSS for $7. It not only held them all…there is room for a little more and it looks pretty when you look into the closet!

The bracelets new home!!


Bracelets old home!


5. In the past year, I have lost some weight and hope to continue on that path. But, just in case, I folded some of the nicer pants which are big on me now and placed them on a shelf! I did take some of the nicer tops now too big to resale. Hopefully, next fall, I will feel confident to take the pants to resale as well.


6. Then, I hung everything by color and in sections. There are skirts, dresses, pants, jackets, and tops. I have never hung by color before and I think that will save some time.






7. Things you cannot see: On shelves to either side of the closet doors are shoes, earring boxes (I use craft bead boxes for earrings), camiis and tanks. On the wall behind the closet doors are decorative hooks where necklaces hang.


8. I did not find the cat….but I did find the cute rug!! I knew it was under there somewhere!


9. My heavy coats and trenches are hanging in our closet under the stairs.


I feel so good that this is done! I really like it…and I did weed out! Don’t give me too hard of a time about the scarves. After looking at the hat rack (which I wish I had pictured before I loaded it up), I do not think I will purchase a scarf for a very long time!!!! I am writing before my husband gets home, so I do not know what he will think of all the scarves and the boutique look around the tub! But, it makes me feel better!!

 Now I am really ready to tackle 2011 and all that it holds!






Jan 16, 2011

Priority Number 10 for 2011: A Little More Thrifting!


Ann Klein Top - Thrift
Ralph Lauren Brown Sweater (old) - Macys
Coldwater Creek Brown Trousers
Scarf - Ross
Dana Buchman Bracelet - Kohls
Boots - Stein Mart




Ladies, my name is Pam and I am a Thriftaholic! That would have been my introduction a few years ago…during the time when I was a stay at home mom with young ones about. I loved to feel like I was saving money with regular trips to Goodwill and garage sales. Deep down…I love a treasure hunt! (Some day, I will tell the story of the teen star from a Mary Kate & Ashley Movie I found working the register at Goodwill for his community service after a drug conviction…I had to go get my teenage daughter and bring her back, but I digress). Sad to say, it got a bit out of hand…for me it was addictive. I ended up with piles of poorly fitting, slightly crazed outfits which I rarely wore. I know now it would have been better to just save the money in a jar and go purchase some nicer pieces which fit my body type.




You know you have a problem when you tell the family you are just running over to Goodwill for a few minutes and everyone screams NO! When I did my early 50s purge and makeover, most of those items went right back to Goodwill and I went cold turkey for several years. Since beginning the blog, there are so many creative, cute, talented thrift stylists that my desire has been returning big time. I can confidently say that I am more mature…understand style and fashion better….and understand my body type and dressing it better. So, the week after Christmas…for the first time in a long time…I entered the doors of Goodwill!! (I immediately saw a new designer wear section…could it be in my honor??)


I have to admit it was nice to be back, but I was very careful and determined with my shopping. It is not easy to find quality pieces for the larger, curvier body types. We have to make sure and take into consideration how much money we might need to spend on alterations in order to make the pieces fit in a flattering manner. Which in that case, it might make more sense just to buy new! Oh, there are many enticing morsels inside a thrift store which are oversized & unflattering …they are screaming at the frustrated plus size woman, “Buy Me in the Name of Creativity.” But, then money goes out the window. I tried on about twenty pieces and walked out with three tops ($3 each) and a $1 gold belt. My favorite find was this Ann Klein top I have pictured here…I love the detail on the cuffs and the collar. Mission accomplished! I believe I can now thrift with a good head on my shoulders. Therefore, in 2011, I plan to do a little thrifting…..and hopefully the addiction will not return!!


Love the detailing on the cuffs and collar


My mothers earrings...both have a brown spot
so it looks intentional.  But, the screw on backs
hurt like crazy by the end of the work day!

“Beware of little expenses; a small leak will sink a great ship.” ~Benjamin Franklin