over50feeling40: LAYERS
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Nov 14, 2011


Jennifer Lopez Sweater: Kohls
Purple Tunic Top: Ross
Belt: Goodwill
Leggings: Coldwater Creek
Target Shoes, new: Goodwill

I'm a woman who carries around all these layers of fear and vulnerability.

-Teri Hatcher

It is difficult to think of a woman like Desperate Housewives’ Terri Hatcher with issues of fear and vulnerability. I remember when she first played Lois Lane on Lois & Clark: The New Adventures of Superman. She was the ever confident newspaper woman, fully in charge of everything, but her emotions for Superman. Yet, her quote reveals the layers we can all hide underneath.

Terri Hatcher.us

  http://frumpfactor.wordpress.com/2011/11/13/visible-monday-authority-authenticity/ wrote a compelling post yesterday about issues she often faces in her career. I think she showed with humility and honesty how many of us hide underneath layers of insecurity.  She was concerned about those who fake their confidence.  But, I do believe that “faking it” is one way to begin to peel layers away. I teach my summer speech classes that they have about three seconds to impress an audience whether speaking to a large or small group. I tell them to portray confidence whether they feel it or not. Eventually, you can start to believe and walk in it. However, the issue is not really about “faking it,” but more about BELIEVING IT. If we believe that we all have value…that we are not mistakes…that we have unique talent no one else has…(and we can truly internalize that)…then we can walk with confidence on the outside. We so often do not realize that people we believe to be successful or confident actually struggle with the same insecurities we have.  They just do not show it or apologize for it!

Later in the day, the temps went
up into the 80s!! So good bye,

Today, I had planned to write about wearing layers in climates such as Texas. But, this really resulted in thinking about the other layers we clothe our spirits in every morning. Try wearing your confidence….Believe in who you are! You just might be surprised at the doors it will open.


  1. I like how you are daring with belts that cinch your fab waist.
    Much love, dear Pam.

  2. It really is all about layers. Great post.

  3. It shouldn't surprise me, but it still does, that beautiful, accomplished women have insecurities too. We all have to remind ourselves that we're worthy, believe it, and show it! Love your J Lo sweater.

  4. I do love how you conceptualize this, Pam. The public speaking example is such a great metaphor, really, for what happens so many times throughout our days and throughout our lives. We do have a short time to make our impression! It's good to remember this. Thanks for the mention and, of course, as always, for your never-ending support of all of us. You are a great motivator.

  5. Nice multi-layered piece of writing!

  6. I'm much better at layering clothes than the others layers...I guess. So I'm glad you change the subject of the post. It makes me think a lot.

  7. You wear your confidence well, Miss Pam. But you wear that cape sweater really well too! What a great look. the colors are fantastic together.

    My favorite Terri Hatcher scene is from Seinfeld, "And yes, they're real and they're spectacular!"


  8. Well, I like your layers (externally) and I appreciate the many philosophical layers of this post, too.

  9. look at you sporting that cape
    well styled!
    enjoyed your post today

  10. You constantly amaze me. You come up with the most amazing topics and speak so well to them. I wish I had a thimble full of your writing ability.
    The outfit is great too.
    I read in the newspaper today that we are getting a Ross store. After seeing your purchases, I am thrilled that we are getting it.

  11. I love what you wrote. I am having trouble with confidence - and I just need to think differently. I love your outfit, too, BTW. Cheers!

  12. Love that cobalt blue! (Ps. I still need your address so I can mail that flower pin to you!)

  13. Another inspirational post. And I love how your sweater drapes around your purple tunic top.

  14. i think that is a great quote by terri. just goes to show that evvvvryone has some insecurities no matter how pretty/great/skinny/famous they are.

    great weater. just like here, i have to peel off the layers by midday!

    What's the next line? Help write the story!

  15. oh la la! I'm loving that royal blue blouse and the cape is gorgeous! You look fantastic!


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