over50feeling40: What Do You Like About You?
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May 24, 2011

What Do You Like About You?

What do you see? An old woman

What do you see? Wrinkles!! And dark circles!

What do you see? My fat face

What do you see? A woman who’s tired and dried up

So tell me, when you look in the mirror, what do you see? These responses came from middle aged women after I held a mirror in front of their faces and asked the question….only one out of six had a positive answer. I think there are many reasons why we so easily think negatively about our personal appearance. I do believe that hormones and menopause play a huge role in our thinking, but we can help to turn it around by being aware. I also know there really is power in practicing positive thinking!

Now, I am not one of those who think that positive thinking can make you a millionaire or pave your way to heaven….but it can help ladies to be more joyful and confident. It is important to see the beauty you have….as a unique one of a kind creation…no one else is exactly like you. Thinking positively can be practiced…just start small and make a decision (a choice) to think that way. Look in the mirror and immediately think of your best feature…maybe it’s the color of your eyes, your smile, white teeth, porcelain skin, huge dimples, thick eyelashes, precious laugh lines, pink cheeks…no matter what…there is something there you can rejoice over. Every day, before you scowl, chose to smile instead at just one thing you see in the mirror. Also, the minute the negativity begins….mentally place a stop sign in its path and begin to look for the positive. It takes time…but with time, any practice can become a habit.

Now, I like my eye color…a hazel cat eye that is sometimes green and sometimes yellow. What about you….what do you like about you??

Jacket: Marshall's
Cami: Chico's
JNY Pants: Macy's
Shoes: Target

Dana Buchman Bracelet: Kohl's
Necklace: Avenue


  1. Red is gorgeous on you!!! Hmmmm......I like my smile and my big eyes! Hugs Pam!!! ~serene

  2. Pam, you are just the best! I love your insight and the very clear way your express yourself.

  3. That was a powerful post! I love starting my day with you. This was the perfect advice for me today. Spent yesterday looking at photos of myself!

    I like my smile...and you DO look great in red.

    Thanks for giving us all so much.

  4. You are absolutely correct. We are way too hard on ourselves. This morning, before I read this post, I looked in the mirror and thought, "Oh, you are getting so old looking!"
    I think it is hard not to be critical when you see so many women our age in the media who look so fabulous. Of course, they have all sorts of resources at their finger tips that we don't, but it is still hard not to do comparisons.
    I love my very dark brown eyes.
    I will try really hard to follow your example and find more to like about myself.
    Maybe one of these days I will get brave enough to start posting on the blog I created.

  5. I do agree...thinking positively can make a difference and can make you see things better:)
    ..and hmm, what I like about me..I guess my lips!:)

  6. What a fantastic post. How about you come to my house and hold my hand while I'm looking in the mirror trying to find that one thing? It's scary to focus on the good when I'm so used to focusing on the bad. But I'm going to try.

    I like my smile.


  7. You made me think. I have really been down on myself lately and I most certainly see more that I do NOT like than what I DO like...
    I do like the color of my eyes... kind of a blue/green/yellow ...
    Thank you for making me think...
    Have a pretty day!

  8. Great post today Pam.. I really like your questions that get us to take a moment and reflect!!! and I love your answers too!!

    I love my calf muscles and my forearms. I like my eyes too actually. And most days I like my hair (but is sometimes stubborn and hard to control just like a man.. hah hah)

    xoox J

  9. I have awesomelly long eyelashes and a great smile
    Great post today!

  10. You are fabulous.
    Whatever you believe, you project and people see. if you think you look ugly and wrinkle that is what people are going to see.
    Just arrived from Belin, but I had to say hi.

  11. From the way the 60 year olds looked when I was a child, I expected to look a lot worse than I do. But I have never smoked or sunbathed, so maybe that has helped. I have also never used any of the mircle face creams that available these days, so I still have the illusion that I could look even better if I wanted to spend more money on my face. All this makes me smile at my mirror.
    As usual, I am in love with your bracelets!


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