Since beginning the blog, I spend a lot of time reading websites, newsletters, and books for women over 50. Often, the advice and observations are the same. Take for example, the common wardrobe mistakes made by middle aged women….I compiled a list of the ones mentioned multiple times:
1. Dressing too old….this is the frumpy look I’ve discussed on over 50.
2. Dressing too young….trying every trend and using no discernment for what might be sophisticated for our age.
3. Dressing too oversized….attempting to cover a multitude of sins…when in actuality; oversized garments make us look larger.
4. Dressing too tight….the opposite can also be true. Sometimes women, young and old, think too- tight- breasts –falling- out is sexy. One stylist I recently read said that you need to be able to pinch one to three inches of material in order for the garment to be proper. If you can’t pinch at least one inch, things are a little too crammed in there!!
I mentioned the word discernment. Dictionary.com defines discernment as discrimination; acuteness of judgment and understanding. We need to listen to that small voice inside of us when we look in the mirror….if we question whether a look is appropriate, then many times it is not and we need to return to the closet. But, then there are times when we feel like it is appropriate, though out of our comfort zone, and we need to just take the plunge and wear it. There is a balance here as we learn to trust ourselves. This is not about the fashion “rules” so many of us balk at…it is about taste and achieving the style we are going for in an appropriate, stylish manner.
For example, one site said that a message or graphic t-shirt is too young a look for our age. However, my “discernment voice” tells me that I can pull it off and it can be youthful, but not too young for a 50+ woman. I have set goals (to be discussed in a future post) for my style and this look falls within my goals. On the flip side….you will never see me in a mini-skirt…that’s not what I am going for.
What would you like to wear that you are not quite sure whether it is a over 50 fashion faux pas or not?
|Jacket: Old Navy\|
Cole Hahn Flats: Marshall's
Graphic T: Handed out free
last year at Lane Bryant's with a
|Bracelet: Forever 21|
Ring and Earrings: Stein Mart