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Oct 22, 2014

Self Care Means I MATTER...And the Thursday Blog Hop!


This beautiful lady is my colleague, Glennis.  She is amazing...full of so much joy and life.  She takes care of her large family, her students, and serves at her church.  She understands the importance of self-care if she is going to take care of all of those in her life. (We were at Goodwill shopping for a special event coming up in life....and I will be blogging about that later! She looks pretty fierce in this black sweater dress we found...right??)

What does SELF CARE mean to you?  Does it mean you eat right…exercise…attend regular checkups…go to the dentist…or all of this and more??
I have confessed before I went through a period of caring for so many others, I neglected caring for me.  I have learned in the last eleven years the vast importance of SELF CARE…of setting boundaries so that I do not neglect myself.  However, there are some who believe setting such boundaries is selfish, greedy, mean, and shows lack of concern for others. Well,with all things, there must be balance.  This is where caring the I MATTER sign is important…and where we can see that we actually do more for others when we care for ourselves. 
In her book SECOND CALLING, Dale Hanson Bourke writes,

 “Self Care is having concern for others but not at your own expense; getting enough sleep, good food, and exercise to remain physically healthy; finding mental stimulation to keep mentally alert; spending time with people who like and respect you; and not expecting one person or group to meet all your needs.”



She also writes, SELF-CARING PEOPLE:
. Do for others because they want to; not to get something in return.
. Act without fear of what others will think because they get satisfaction from the action itself, not the reaction of others.
. Share love and are able to accept love in return.
. Are able to care for others because they recognize and find the love and attention they themselves need
. Know they are neither marvelous nor insignificant
. Understand they are important but not indispensable
. Allow others the dignity of making their own mistakes and claiming their own successes
. Accept themselves and others as they really are, with their faults and strengths
Have you set your boundaries….or are you carrying the burdens on your back of so many other people that you neglect yourself?   Those burdens can lead to depression, fatigue, and poor health.  Those burdens are joy zappers.  And I will warn you... some of those closest to you will not understand when you suddenly pull back.  But, you know, I have learned that it actually helps others for them NOT to rely on me for everything.
Then, we can love life and do so much more when we take time to say I MATTER.


Have a great Thursday and make sure you check out the great 

posts of Katie's Favorite Things Blog Hop!



popular Thursday Blog HopThe Thursday Favorite Things Blog hop is where you can link your favorite post of the week or write a post about your favorite things and share it with old and new followers.
Please remember to post no more than 3 links to your blog. The hop is hosted and posted on 3 different blogs! Please follow all of the hostesses. Your link will appear on the blogs of Katherines Corner,Over 50 Feeling 40 and Vintage Mama. Three times the opportunity to make new bloggy friends and to share your wonderful blog and discover others too.


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Please DO NOT link and run…….please visit a few of the wonderful blogs that are sharing here today.
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During a Warmer Autumn... Pull Out the Skirts!


If you are a lover of all things autumn, and a resident of South Texas...like I am...it requires much patience, and determination to see the little signs.  While some are enjoying full blown radiance on the landscape...we must look deep inside the trees to discover hope autumn is there.
Summer heat continues to bear down, yet I remain true to dressing seasonal and just find ways to keep fun in my wardrobe.  One way to do this easily is with my autumn skirts.
This is an olive knit skirt from my past, and I really love its comfort.  You just cannot go wrong with a pencil skirt....a great fit for any body type.  





I made this scarf this star of this neutral based outfit!

The jacket is one of my favorite pieces from JJILL.








You already know that I decorate my home for fall...despite sun blasting through the windows.  And I also keep seasonal scents throughout my home by lighting candles; such as this one from AIRWICK.  They also make wonderful aromas in air fresheners and plug-in scented oils (my husband loves these!).  Some of this season's scents include fragrances from favorite NATIONAL PARKS:  Great Smoky Mountain Warm Spice, Shenendoah Apple and Cinnamon Spice, New Isle Royale Sugar Maple and Hazelnut Crisp, Cuyahoga Valley Sweet Pear and Amber Woods, and Acadia Sweet Pumpkin and amber...so wonderful to enter a home or work place saturated in scents of autumn....You can find them at most of your favorite retailers.

Have a autumny Wednesday!!


Air Wick Products were provided for my review, but the opinions are my own!

Oct 21, 2014

Ageless Dressing...Is it Possible? AND SAS WINNER ANNOUNCED!!


Happy Tuesday, all!  Today I am over at my second home, MIDLIFE BOULEVARD, to discuss Ageless Dressing...from my point of view and author, Kendall Farr's.

To see why I think the look on this page is ageless, just join me in



Let's sit around our virtual table and have a talk!!

Now, check this out!  I am featured on Cindy Swanson's fun blog, CLICK HERE!  She is writing for 31 days about Aging Gracefully!  (She used this same picture of me!)

ALSO, CONGRATULATIONS TO WILLIAM BERRY...winner of the $220 shopping spree with SAS Shoes!  My first male winner...thanks for stopping by William!



Have a Day Full of Joy!